Dating after divorce does not have to be difficult

Dating after divorce is an adventure that can be fruitful and funny. That’s my story, and I’m sticking to it.

Dating after divorce can actually be a very rewarding experience.

 

Too many people think that dating after divorce is difficult. When they talk about their dating after divorce experiences, they start getting depressed. “Dating after divorce is a real chore,” they say.

But why does it have to be that way? I think that anyone who thinks that dating after divorce sucks needs an attitude adjustment. Simple as that.

My mission while dating after divorce

When I was dating after divorce, I was on a mission. My mission was to have fun and find the love of my life. That was how I began my dating over 50 life, which I wrote about in a book called Confessions of a Middle Aged Babe Magnet: One Man's Brave Adventure into Dating Again in the 21st Century by yours truly, Chad Stone. Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet is a humorous look at dating after divorce and dating after 50. It contains 92 Babe Magnet Rules that help guide a dating over 50 man (or a dating over 50 woman) through the process of finding love.

After my marriage ended, I (Chad Stone) began dating after divorce in search of the last great love of my life. I was not afraid to jump into dating, because I was very clear about my intentions. I had my “eye on the prize.” I quickly realized that, in order to attract the Babe of my dreams while, I needed to work on myself a little bit. I had to be open to new ideas. While dating over 50, I had to be flexible enough to improve myself so I’d be a more desirable “catch.” I had to learn how to become a Babe Magnet so I could attract the woman of my dreams.

 

A funny story of dating after divorce

As my dating after divorce story unfolded, I wrote my thoughts and adventures down in a journal. Ultimately, my story because a humorous memoir that’s also an insightful dating and relationship guide for men of all ages. It contains lots of great dating after divorce advice--and lots of laughs for anyone who has ever been single.

My dating after divorce story became a humorous memoir/dating advice book called Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet.

 

During my dating after divorce adventure, I discovered that my soul mate was not going to knock unannounced at my front door. (Babe Magnet Rule #9: When in doubt, a Babe Magnet gets off the couch and goes out.) I learned how to woo a woman by paying attention to what women appreciate. (Babe Magnet Rule #36: Any time a man cooks a meal for a woman, he gets relationship points.) And during my dating after divorce journey, I learned how to stand apart from other single men. (Babe Magnet Rule #87: Be a gentleman. There are so few gentlemen left in the world these days, and being one is a great way to set yourself apart from all of the jerks that women have been dating.)

Dating after divorce success

I shared all of my new-found knowledge and awareness learned while I was dating after divorce. It’s all contained in Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet -- a journey of modern self-discovery that is laugh-out-loud funny in some places and poignantly tender in others. For women, the book offers a unique, dating after divorce look into the mind of a real man—revealing how a single man thinks and why he behaves as he does. Dating after divorce has never been so much fun! Middle-AgedBabeMagnet

I even wrote a follow-up book called The Babe Magnet Rules of Dating Over 50: 101 Tips for Meeting, Winning, & Keeping a New Love.

Fascinating, funny and heartfelt, Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet is a triumph of the human spirit and proof that love is possible at any age while dating after divorce—as long as you’re willing to embrace it. My tongue-in-cheek “Babe Magnet” persona turned out to be the vehicle I used to find the last great love of my life. It’s a powerful, entertaining story with a happy ending that will make you smile and fill you with hope. Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet: One Man's Brave Adventure into Dating Again in the 21st Century 

Any questions?

Please “Like” the Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet page on Facebook. Thank you!

 

Best Senior Dating Sites

I just found out about a great website for folks who aren't afraid to proudly claim that they are old enough to be "seniors." I'm not sure what the age requirement is for seniorhood-- AARP says 50, my local movie theater says 62, and most people think of 65 as retirement age.You decide.

Anyway, the site is bestseniordatingsites.org. Visit the homepage and you'll see a roundup of the 25 best dating sites for seniors. Delve a little deeper by clicking on one of the Latest Posts links (on the left side of the Home page) and you can read some great stories.

I liked Top 100 Senior Dating, Relationship and Lifestyle Blogs. The Top 100 list includes blogs that cover Dating and Relationship Advice, Travel, Fitness, Lifestyle, and Fashion. Evidently, Joe Atkins, webmaster and editor of bestseniordatingsites.org couldn't just stop at 100 blogs to list. He's added another section-- and the current Top 100 list (as of this writing) now includes 108 top senior dating and relationship blogs.

Now, those of you who are regular readers of this blog and my book site, middleagedbabemagnet.com, know that I cover all kinds of dating and relationship topics--including dating after divorce, dating over 50,  and dating advice for people of all ages. This blog isn't just for people who are "seniors." But one of the things I discovered in my dating after divorce and dating over 50 life is that so much of good dating advice transcends a person's age.

Take Babe Magnet Rule #87: Be a gentleman.There are so few gentlemen left in the world these days, and being one is a great way to set yourself apart from all of the jerks that women have been dating. That's good advice no matter how old you are-- whether you're in your 20s or you are dating over 50.(By the way, that Babe Magnet Rule is from Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet.)

So, I hope this blog gets mentioned on the best senior dating sites website. After all, I AM a member of AARP already--although I'm not yet old enough to get the senior discount at the movie theater.

Chad Stone, the Middle-Aged Babe Magnet, has left the building.

Dating After Divorce: Dating Dealbreakers

One of the best things about Twitter is hashtags. Just using a hashtag (#) followed by a short phrase makes it possible to follow a specific topic as it trends across the Twitterverse.



Last week, the hashtag #MajorTurnOffs was abuzz with dealbreakers about dating. These pithy little comments sum up the complaints against people who are bad dates—and who probably aren’t worthy of seeing again. Anyone who has been dating after divorce is going to recognize a lot of these. (Thanks to huffingtonpost.com for compiling this list.) And thanks to Twitter, too.

Dating Dealbreakers Number 1-5

• a man who isn't gainfully employed

• People who are rude to servers or other customer service people.

• When you can’t tell me how large the national debt is, but you know every detail about Kim and Yeezy’s life.

• married men who flirt with you behind their wives back/in front of their wives faces.

• when females act like they don’t trust men at all.

Dating Dealbreakers Number 6-10

• mentioning an ex like they're still obsessed with them. (Is this a dating after divorce red flag, or what?)

• past drama-- I need to know that your past is your past, your ex is your ex, and that I’m not a backup

• When someone says, “I liked that band way before they were famous.”

• Not being ok with divorce. It’s kind of my thing. (Yeah, if you’re dating after divorce, that could be a real sore spot.)

• Someone that’s just always negative & never has anything good to say about anything or anyone.

Dating Dealbreakers Number 11-15

• people who try to rush relationships. Breathe and settle down. We aren’t getting married tomorrow.

• someone who’s ignorant

• Flirting with other people while on a date.

• making promises they already know they are not going to keep

• I’d say indecisiveness. Or maybe not. Tough one. (Ha! When you’re dating after divorce, you need to have a sense of humor!)

Dating Dealbreakers Number 16-20

• when you’ve got nothing good to say about your exes. What are you going to be saying about me if it doesn't work out?

• If you can’t hold an intelligent conversation with me.

• Guys who get drunk on the 1st date, esp if I’m not even drinking.

• Beautiful people with ugly personalities

• And one of mine own: someone who doesn’t even show up for the first date—and doesn’t even call or text. Just a no show. That’s a case of “one strike and you’re out.”



So what do you think? Is this a good list? Leave a comment and let us know what your dating dealbreaker is. And thanks for reading.



This is Chad Stone, author of Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet, signing off.