tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81038743538696794332024-03-16T00:27:11.767-07:00Middle-Aged Babe MagnetSomewhere in the middle years of life, millions of people find themselves single again. And dating for the first time in years. Welcome aboard this new adventure!MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.comBlogger79125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-77511608143698234922014-03-01T09:24:00.000-08:002014-03-01T09:25:15.296-08:00Great Dating Advice Tips from the Internet<br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">There’s no shortage of dating advice on the internet.
(Including the dating advice website you’re reading right now, written by yours
truly, Chad Stone the Middle-Aged Babe Magnet!). If you want to see just how
much dating advice is out there in web-land, create a Google Alert for “dating
advice” and you will get a recap every single day.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">So here’s a quick round-up of some recent dating advice and
relationship tips that I gleaned from the internet. Enjoy!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Dating Advice #1: Do not talk about your ex-wife/ex-husband/ex-girlfriend/ex-boyfriend on a date.</td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Those of you who have read my previous posts (and my dating
advice book, The Babe Magnet Rules of Dating Over 50, </span><a href="http://amzn.to/13hyWAj"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Calibri;">http://amzn.to/13hyWAj</span></a><span style="font-family: Calibri;"> ) know that one of my
pet peeves is bad-mouthing your ex-spouse or your ex-girlfriend/boyfriend. That’s
just a really dumb thing to do when you’re on a date with someone new. It makes
you look like a jerk. So I loved this story from HuffPost called “The Quickest
Way to Crash a Relationship.”</span></div>
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<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/susan-campos/download-dating-the-quick_b_4834600.html"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Calibri;">http://www.huffingtonpost.com/susan-campos/download-dating-the-quick_b_4834600.html</span></a><span style="font-family: Calibri;">
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Another popular topic of dating advice posts online is “inappropriate
online dating pictures.” <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You know the
kind—a guy in workout clothes showing off his muscles, or a picture of him
standing next to his sports car. Or how about a woman and her two little dogs
dress up for Halloween. Have you ever seen any of these?</span></div>
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<a href="http://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/how-analyze-online-dating-profile-pictures-whos-keeper"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Calibri;">http://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/how-analyze-online-dating-profile-pictures-whos-keeper</span></a><o:p></o:p></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Five Reasons You Shouldn’t Let Your Friends Set You Up
caught my eye. Five reasons? Aren’t there more like 105 reasons in the annals
of dating advice? Aren’t there at least a couple of reasons for every person
you went out with that didn’t work out, even though your friend said you were “perfect”
for each other? Sure. But there’s always the ONE REASON you might want to let
your friends set you up. IT MIGHT WORK OUT. There’s no one right way to meet
the love of your life. Here’s the story:</span></div>
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<a href="http://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/5-reasons-you-shouldnt-let-your-friends-set-you"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Calibri;">http://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/5-reasons-you-shouldnt-let-your-friends-set-you</span></a><span style="font-family: Calibri;">
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">There's a lot of dating advice on the Internet. Some of it can be confusing.</td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">And then there’s all the dating advice you could have
learned over the years from the “How I Met Your Mother” TV show. There’s enough
material here for several books. A recent web story covered some of the
highlights, which are especially timely because the series is going to end
soon. One of my favorite tips from the show is “Mystery is much more exciting
than history.” That refers to how easy it is in the Facebook and Google world
to find out WAY TOO MUCH about someone you’re about to go out with. Sometimes
it’s more fun to find out things on your own. Check out this link if you like
the TV show at all: </span></div>
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<a href="http://www.theonlinerocket.com/campus-life/2014/02/25/how-i-met-your-mother-creates-rules-for-dating/"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Calibri;">http://www.theonlinerocket.com/campus-life/2014/02/25/how-i-met-your-mother-creates-rules-for-dating/</span></a><span style="font-family: Calibri;">
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Best of all-- since these tips and stories were posted on
the Internet, you know they are all true! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Have a great day!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com13tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-63514682858385588752014-02-16T19:59:00.001-08:002014-02-16T19:59:52.328-08:00Dating after divorce does not have to be difficult
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is an adventure that can be fruitful and funny. That’s my story, and I’m
sticking to it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Too many people think
that dating after divorce is difficult. When they talk about their dating after
divorce experiences, they start getting depressed. “Dating after divorce is a
real chore,” they say. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">But why does it have
to be that way? I think that anyone who thinks that dating after divorce sucks
needs an attitude adjustment. Simple as that.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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My mission while dating after divorce</h3>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">When I was dating
after divorce, I was on a mission. My mission was to have fun and find the love
of my life. That was how I began my dating over 50 life, which I wrote about in
a book called </span><b><u><span style="color: blue; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><a href="http://amzn.to/120GPWo" target="_blank" title="Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet"><span style="color: blue;">Confessions
of a Middle Aged Babe Magnet: One Man's Brave Adventure into Dating Again in
the 21st Century</span></a></span></u></b><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> by yours truly, Chad Stone. Confessions of a Middle-Aged
Babe Magnet is a humorous look at dating after divorce and dating after 50. It
contains 92 Babe Magnet Rules that help guide a dating over 50 man (or a dating
over 50 woman) through the process of finding love.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">After my marriage
ended, I (Chad Stone) began dating after divorce in search of the last great love
of my life. I was not afraid to jump into dating, because I was very clear
about my intentions. I had my “eye on the prize.” I quickly realized that, in
order to attract the Babe of my dreams while, I needed to work on myself a
little bit. I had to be open to new ideas. While dating over 50, I had to be
flexible enough to improve myself so I’d be a more desirable “catch.” I had to
learn how to become a Babe Magnet so I could attract the woman of my dreams.</span></div>
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A funny story of dating after divorce</h3>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">As my dating after
divorce story unfolded, I wrote my thoughts and adventures down in a journal.
Ultimately, my story because a humorous memoir that’s also an insightful dating
and relationship guide for men of all ages. It contains lots of great dating
after divorce advice--and lots of laughs for anyone who has ever been single.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">My dating after divorce story became a humorous memoir/dating advice book called Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet.</td></tr>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">During my dating after
divorce adventure, I discovered that my soul mate was not going to knock
unannounced at my front door. (<b><i>Babe Magnet Rule #9: </i></b><i>When
in doubt, a Babe Magnet gets off the couch and goes out</i>.) I learned how to
woo a woman by paying attention to what women appreciate. (<b><i>Babe Magnet
Rule #36: </i></b><i>Any time a man cooks a meal for a woman, he gets
relationship points.</i>) And during my dating after divorce journey, I learned
how to stand apart from other single men. (<b><i>Babe Magnet Rule #87: </i></b><i>Be
a gentleman. There are so few gentlemen left in the world these days, and being
one is a great way to set yourself apart from all of the jerks that women have
been dating</i>.)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Dating after divorce success</h3>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-style: italic; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I shared all of my new-found knowledge and awareness learned while I
was dating after divorce. It’s all contained in Confessions of a Middle-Aged
Babe Magnet </span><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">-- a journey of modern
self-discovery that is laugh-out-loud funny in some places and poignantly
tender in others. For women, the book offers a unique, dating after
divorce look into the mind of a real man—revealing how a single man thinks and
why he behaves as he does. Dating after divorce has never been so much
fun! <a href="http://bit.ly/13Ril6y" target="_blank" title="Middle-Aged Babe Magnet website"><span style="color: blue;">Middle-AgedBabeMagnet</span></a><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I even wrote a
follow-up book called <a href="http://amzn.to/13hyWAj" target="_blank">The Babe Magnet Rules of Dating Over 50: 101 Tips for Meeting, Winning, & Keeping a New Love.</a> <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Fascinating, funny and
heartfelt, <i>Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</i> is a triumph
of the human spirit and proof that love is possible at any age while dating
after divorce—as long as you’re willing to embrace it. My tongue-in-cheek “Babe
Magnet” persona turned out to be the vehicle I used to find the last great love
of my life. It’s a powerful, entertaining story with a happy ending that will
make you smile and fill you with hope. </span><b><u><span style="color: blue; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><a href="http://amzn.to/120GPWo" target="_blank" title="Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet"><span style="color: blue;">Confessions
of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet: One Man's Brave Adventure into Dating Again in
the 21st Century</span></a></span></u></b><b><span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> <o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-21763413432163191622014-01-31T10:21:00.000-08:002014-01-31T10:21:40.067-08:00The real truth about Valentine’s Day myths and misunderstandings
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Day is the biggest day of the year for lovers. It doesn’t really matter if
Valentine’s Day is a made-up holiday designed to sell greeting cards and boxes
of chocolates. Valentine’s Day has become a day for lovers to express their
feelings and affections for each other, and it’s a day that you better
participate in—or else endure the wrath of your sweetheart.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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might think you know everything there is to know about celebrating cupid’s day
of love. After all, you’ve had a few relationships in your life. (Maybe more
than a few relationships!) Nevertheless, in the spirit of Valentine’s Day and
offering Valentine’s Day advice, let’s talk about the biggest myths and
misunderstandings about Valentine’s Day.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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wrong and double wrong. If you’re a man and you decide to skip Valentine’s Day,
you are setting yourself up for disaster. Your honey-pie </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">might even realize that it's a hyped-up holiday, but that
won’t get you off the hook completely. You know why? Because everyone else is
celebrating it, and if she sees her friends getting flowers and going out to
dinner, she’s going to wonder why you are being such a jerk. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">So here’s
what you can do instead. Celebrate </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Valentine’s
in your own special, low-key sort of way. You don’t have to buy lavish gifts to
keep the spirit of the day alive. How about planning an activity that you and
your lover enjoy? Take her hiking or ice skating or zip-lining (if you’re
really adventurous). It almost doesn’t matter what activity you decide to do
together as long as your honey can tell that you gave it some thought and you
picked something that you thought she would enjoy. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Arial Black","sans-serif"; font-size: 14pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Myth # 2: February 14th is
the only day to celebrate love</span><span style="font-family: "Arial Black","sans-serif"; font-size: 20pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><br />
</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Just because everyone else is
celebrating Valentine’s Day on February 14th, does that mean you
have to? Not really. Sure, it’s the conventional thing to do. The very
popularity of Feb. 14 makes it a bit difficult to buck the tide. But you can
throw convention out the window and have a little fun—if you do it right. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">How about
picking another day in the week and declare it as your very own Valentine’s
Day? Every place will be less crowded, and it might feel more special if you
and your lover have your very own day. She will still be the one being
romanced, right? She will appreciate the fact that you created a day just for her.
But this is very important: </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Make sure
you talk about this BEFORE Valentine’s Day. She has to be onboard with this
idea or it won’t work.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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vacation, so it's OK to skip Valentine's Day altogether<o:p></o:p></span></h3>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I pity the man who falls for this
myth. Sure, she agreed to save money for your big vacation. So she clearly won’t
expect a lavish Valentine’s Day celebration. But none at all? That will disappoint
her—especially when all of her girlfriends have stories to tell about the gifts
they received and the places they went.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">So, honor the spirit of your
agreement to save money. While you should not plan an expensive date, you do
want to surprise her with an inexpensive (but thoughtful) gift or activity.
Plan to meet her for lunch and pack her favorite food in a picnic basket.
She'll be impressed that you stuck to a budget while still making her feel
special.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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few months, so you won't celebrate<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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been dating a long time, or if you’re happily married, Valentine’s Day is a
no-brainer. OF COURSE you’re going to celebrate the day in some way. But what
about if you just started dating? Do you opt for something romantic if you’re
not really sure how your gesture will be received?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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relationship, it’s important to honor the day without being </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">overly romantic about it. Ignoring Valentine’s Day would be
a mistake, so you want to acknowledge it and gently use Valentine’s Day as a
way to move the relationship forward. How? Try scheduling a dancing class or a
cooking class. Or, take her to see a comedy show — anything to get the two of
you laughing and experiencing something fun together.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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return<o:p></o:p></span></h3>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Ladies, this is the myth that you
have to pay attention to. Although Valentine’s Day is usually marketed as a
woman’s holiday, when the man makes a big deal about treating his woman to gifts
and expressions of love, there’s no rule stating that the woman can’t surprise her
man with something thoughtful in return.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Plan to give him a small gift of love.
It can be a gift that you buy, or it can be something fun and special. Make him
his favorite dessert. Or how about a sexy lingerie show just for him, followed
by … well, you know. Be creative and he will feel loved and adored.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Arial Black","sans-serif"; font-size: 14pt; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">And
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Who says Valentine’s Day
celebrations have to be restricted to one day a year? Make every day a
Valentine’s Day by saying “I love you” and showing your honey that you
appreciate them!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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For more on this topic--and just about everything else concerning love, dating and relationships, read <a href="http://amzn.to/13hyWAj" target="_blank">The Babe Magnet Rules of Dating Over 50: 101 Tips for Meeting, Winning & Keeping a New Love</a> by Chad Stone. For daily tips about love and relationships, "Like" <a href="http://on.fb.me/16RtcOl" target="_blank">Chad's Facebook page</a>.<br />
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MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-40822243077095577992014-01-12T09:44:00.000-08:002014-01-12T09:44:13.540-08:00Online Dating Goes Mobile: There’s an App for That
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Online
dating and looking for love online has definitely gone mainstream. According to a
Pew Internet study, 11% of American adults have used online dating sites or
mobile dating apps while looking for love. Among those adults who are “single
and looking,” the figure jumps to 38% who have gone online or used mobile apps
to help them find a romantic partner. (Interestingly, another 10% who are
“single and not looking” have also used online dating sites and apps. They must
be window shopping.)<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">The
study about online dating and mobile dating apps is fascinating in its scope and
detail. You can read more about it here:<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<a href="http://pewinternet.org/Reports/2013/Online-Dating/Main-Report/Part-2.aspx"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">http://pewinternet.org/Reports/2013/Online-Dating/Main-Report/Part-2.aspx</span></a><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;"> <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">I’ve
covered online dating in previous posts. This time we’re going to look at
mobile phone dating apps that turn smart phones into a whole new way to meet
up. (Thanks to </span><a href="http://www.cassandradaily.com/"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">www.CassandraDaily.com</span></a><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;"> for bringing
these to my attention.)<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Twine<o:p></o:p></span></h3>
<span style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Let’s face it, most dating sites and apps encourage users to make
judgments about people based almost exclusively on a profile photo. (A photo is
the first thing you see until you click to see a person’s profile.)<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But an app called Twine blurs a person’s
profile at first, so it forces users to evaluate possible Cupid connections
based only on personality info. Twine syncs up with the Facebook profiles of
users to create a more secure environment. The app provides up to three potential
matches every day. Users of Twine can see each other’s age, location, a
compatibility meter, and their mutual interests (and that blurry profile photo),
which the app uses to suggest conversation topics. You can chat anonymously for
a while. Then, if both of you agree to see each other’s clear photos and first
names, bingo—all is revealed. </span><br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Twine blurs a person's profile photo at first to encourage you to focus on their personality and interests.</td></tr>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Anomo<o:p></o:p></span></h3>
<span style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Like Twine, Anomo is a popular dating app that hides the users’
profile pictures until they choose to share them. So instead of photos, in the
beginning people only see a cartoon avatar. They also see a username, gender,
age group (verified by Facebook), location, and interests. To get things going,
the app suggests games to break the ice and help find potential matches. To
make it more fun, Anomo lets you chat one-on-one (using 540 characters or less),
invite people to play the games with them, and check into locations. As time
progresses, users can unlock personal content including their names, pictures, and
occupations. Anomo was originally launched as a dating app, but it has also
gained additional traction as a way for people to make friends and connect
professionally. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Tinder</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></h3>
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Tinder
might just be the perfect dating app for single people who suffer from a fear
of rejection. It was launched to connect people anonymously based on their
locations and their personal preferences. For whatever reason—who really knows
why some apps and some websites catch fire, Tinder has exploded in popularity.
Already more than 35 million people have created profiles and more than 1
million matches have been made. One reason it has caught on so quickly is
because the app links to users’ Facebook accounts. This gives Tinder the power
to suggest possible matches based on Facebook friends and interests. To address
privacy concerns, members remain anonymous until they both indicate a mutual “Like.”
<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">The Tinder mobile app already has 35 million registered users. Love is calling!</td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">So
I guess the moral of this story is this: as long as there are single people,
there will be no shortage of ways to connect with them, meet them, and fall in
love. Take it from yours truly, Chad Stone, the <a href="http://amzn.to/120GPWo" target="_blank">Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</a>. I
found my wife online, so I can tell you that technology can be a wonderful
thing when you’re looking for your soul mate. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Please
connect with me at </span><a href="http://www.facebook.com/ConfessionsofaMiddleAgedBabeMagnet"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">www.facebook.com/ConfessionsofaMiddleAgedBabeMagnet</span></a><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;"> for my daily
thoughts and discoveries about life, dating and relationships.</span></div>
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MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-89304539418891849102013-12-30T19:05:00.000-08:002013-12-30T19:05:20.634-08:00New Year’s Resolutions: A New Year Brings New Opportunities for Happiness
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The beginning of a New Year is traditionally the time when we make New
Year’s resolutions. Of course, you can make resolutions, set goals, and vow to
improve yourself at any time of the year. But when the calendar page turns to a
new year, that’s when most of us take time to reflect on the year just finished
and consider what we can do to make the coming New Year even better.<o:p></o:p></div>
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With that in mind, I thought I would share my New Year’s resolutions for
2014—and beyond. Perhaps they will give you an idea of something you’d like to
do to make your new year brighter.<o:p></o:p></div>
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New Year’s Resolution #1: Be happy, and seek happiness in everything I
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Every day is full of opportunities to be happy, but sometimes we forget
how much we have to be happy about. This year I will seek and recognize happiness in even little things. This year I promise to wake up with a happy
thought. I will take a moment to be happy to be waking up in a warm, comfortable
bed. I will ponder at least one happy moment to look forward to that day. I will
appreciate my first meal of the day, and the clothes I am wearing. I will
appreciate the sun on clear days and the clouds on rainy days. I will
especially be joyful and thankful for my loving family and friends. I have a
lot to be thankful for, and the natural result of gratitude is happiness. <o:p></o:p></div>
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New Year’s Resolution #2: Enjoy the small moments<o:p></o:p></h3>
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It’s easy to enjoy the big moments of life—the birth of a child or
grandchild, the triumph of a new job or promotion, the thrill of a major
vacation. But what about the small everyday moments? There can be great joy in
a sunset, in the first morning cup of coffee, in receiving a friendly email or
Facebook message that you didn’t expect. This year I promise to enjoy the small
moments that happen throughout the day—every day.<o:p></o:p></div>
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New Year’s Resolution #3: Be more friendly, and be a better friend<o:p></o:p></h3>
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This year I will be the first to introduce myself to a stranger at a
party or a business event. I will be the one with the smile on my face and the
outstretched hand, welcoming a newcomer who is standing alone by himself. I
will look for new opportunities to make new friends, and I will be more
friendly to those people who I already consider my friends.<o:p></o:p></div>
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New Year’s Resolution #4: Cut myself a little slack.<o:p></o:p></h3>
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Most of us are too hard on ourselves. I am certainly more critical of
myself than I am of other people, and I expect more of myself than I do of
anyone else. So instead of trying to walk on water, I promise to be content
with walking through the puddles. I don’t have to be perfect at everything I
do. I don’t have to beat myself up about every little mistake I make. I am
going to cut myself a little slack and not sweat the small stuff. I’ll bet this
goes a long way toward making every day happier. (See New Year’s resolution #1)<o:p></o:p></div>
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New Year’s Resolution #5: Look for the positive<o:p></o:p></h3>
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This year I am going to do a better job of looking for silver linings.
When that work project that I bid on doesn’t come through, I will tell myself
that a better offer is on its way. When a friend disappoints me by being
unavailable for lunch, I will take that as an opportunity to call someone else
who I haven’t talked to in a while. When my kids don’t return my calls, I will
be thankful that their lives are blessedly busy—and I will call them again with
a smile on my face. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Our attitude about the
things that happen every day has a major impact on our life experience, so I am
going to make sure that my attitude is as positive as possible. <o:p></o:p></div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">One of the things I learned while writing <a href="http://amzn.to/120GPWo" target="_blank">Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</a> was that we are all responsible for our own happiness.</td></tr>
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New Year’s Resolution #6: Practice random acts of kindness<o:p></o:p></h3>
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I am going to do some nice things for people for no particular reason. I
have never in my life paid for the guy’s order behind me in the Starbucks
drive-through. Well, this year I am going to randomly do some nice things for
people I don’t know—as well as for people that I do know. I am going to give a
meal to a homeless person. I am going to take magazines to a nursing home or
hospital waiting room. I will support inspirational websites like <a href="http://www.kheavensent.com/">www.kheavensent.com</a>. And I won’t expect
anything in return. The warm feeling in my heart and the hope that I might
inspire someone else to practice a random act of kindness will be all the
reward I need.<o:p></o:p></div>
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How about you? What are you going to do to ensure that this next year
is better than the one before?</div>
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Chad Stone is the author of <a href="http://amzn.to/120GPWo" target="_blank">Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</a>. Like his <a href="http://on.fb.me/14XA3RP" target="_blank">Facebook</a> page!</div>
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MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-84377425150892324082013-12-10T19:10:00.000-08:002013-12-10T19:11:52.305-08:00Dating Tips for the Holiday Season<br />
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I was just interviewed on a radio show to talk about dating
tips for the holiday season.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It’s a
popular topic this time of year because the holiday season is typically festive
and filled with lots of social events. But the holidays can be a bit
challenging for singles. If you’re single during the holidays it’s important to
stay positive and say yes to holiday parties. Don’t start feeling sorry for
yourself just because you aren’t spending the holidays with the love of your
life.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Holiday Dating Tips
for Singles<o:p></o:p></h3>
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Sure, there are lots of family-oriented events during the
holiday season. And, yes, Aunt Mabel might corner you at a family gathering and
ask you why you still aren’t married. But look at the positive side: the
holidays are filled with social events that offer opportunities to meet someone
new. Be open to meeting someone special and you’ll find yourself having fun. Follow
these tips:<o:p></o:p></div>
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Holiday Dating Tip
#1: Go Old School<o:p></o:p></h3>
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You know what they say about
the holiday season, right? It’s the most wonderful time of the year! This
season is also the most old-fashioned time of the year, and that goes for
everyone whether you’re single, dating, or married. The most popular Christmas
song is White Christmas, by Bing Crosby—a <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>song that was recorded in 1942. There is no
other time of year that you’ll hear a 70-year-old song on the radio. So keep
that in mind, and lean toward behaving like an old school man or old school
woman during your dating and social activities during the holidays. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Holiday Season Tip for
Singles #2: Dress to Impress<o:p></o:p></h3>
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The holiday season is a
fancier, more formal and more festive time of year. So dress nice. Leave your
crappy clothes at home and wear your grown-up clothes. Throw that old
sweatshirt and frayed sweater in the laundry and leave them there until after
New Year’s. Be classy, not trashy if you want to stand out and attract new love
during the holidays.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">This outfit sounded like a good idea after 12 glasses of eggnog. Can you spell E-P-I-C F-A-I-L?</td></tr>
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Holiday Dating Tip #3: Use Your Best Manners<o:p></o:p></h3>
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Again, think Old School. Maybe
saying “Yes Ma’am” and “Yes, Sir” is going a bit too far—but maybe not. If
you’re a single person meeting your boyfriend’s or girlfriend’s parents for the
first time, it’s really hard to be TOO polite. And the same thing goes for
meeting someone on a first date. During the holidays, we just expect people to
be nicer, friendlier, and have better manners. <o:p></o:p></div>
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So guys,<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"> DO NOT</b> wear mistletoe on you belt buckle thinking you’re going to
get some action. That’s an epic fail during the holidays.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Holiday Dating Tip #4:
<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Don’t be a Schmuck—Spend Ten Bucks<o:p></o:p></h3>
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The holidays are full of parties—office parties, cocktail
parties, dinner parties. Whether you’re a man or a woman, show up bearing a
gift. Small and thoughtful is best. Poinsettias. A bottle of affordable wine.
Homemade cookies or sweetbread. A small holiday décor item. Be a wise man (or
woman) and play the role of Santa’s little helper. Spending 5 or 10 bucks keeps
you from looking like a schmuck. And generosity is VERY appealing to singles of
both genders.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Holiday Season Tip for
Singles #5: Relax and be Your Best Self <o:p></o:p></h3>
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The holiday season is a great
time to relax, enjoy yourself and stop trying so hard to impress the opposite
sex. If you’re a man, leave your tired old pickup lines at home. If you’re a
woman, leave your slutty clothes in your closet. This is the time to be
comfortable within you own skin in a comfortable, natural way. There is nothing
more appealing than that. (And this holiday dating tip works all year long.)<o:p></o:p></div>
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Bonus Holiday Season Tip
for Single Women<o:p></o:p></h3>
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Ladies,<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"> DO NOT</b>
dress up your dog in a cute little Santa outfit, thinking that’s a great man
magnet. You might think, “That’s so cute!” But men think, “Look at the crazy
lady who dressed up her dog like Santa Paws.” <o:p></o:p></div>
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Double Bonus: The
Holiday Season is a good time to remember:<o:p></o:p></h3>
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Babe Magnet Rule #14<o:p></o:p></h4>
Babe Magnets are confident and sure of themselves. Even if
they have to fake it.<o:p></o:p><br />
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Babe Rule #1<o:p></o:p></h4>
Be the Babe. Make him earn your affections. You’re worth the
effort.<o:p></o:p><br />
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(NOTE: For more dating and relationship tips, read <a href="http://amzn.to/13hyWAj" target="_blank">The Babe Magnet Rules of Dating Over 50: 101 Tips for Meeting, Winning & Keeping a New Love</a> by Chad Stone.)<o:p></o:p></div>
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MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-1351568433700923892013-11-30T14:04:00.000-08:002013-11-30T14:04:47.830-08:00Two secrets women need to know about men
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Talk
to any woman, and she will tell you that men don’t understand women. That’s
because men can be clueless—and that’s no big secret. (I am a man, and I can
say this in all honesty.) But I’ll let you in on a little secret women need to
know about men. Many women don’t know that they don’t have a clue about men,
either. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">According
to dating expert Kara Oh, most women don’t have a clue about two vitally
important secrets about how to date and win the heart of a man. I call these
the two secrets that women need to know about men in order to attract the right
man—and keep him interested.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Is LOVE in the cards for you? It can be--but only if you know the rules of the game.</td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Secret
#1: A Woman Must Use Her Feminine Ways<o:p></o:p></span></h3>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">What
does it mean for a woman to use her feminine ways? It means simply this: most
men can’t handle a woman’s emotional power. Women must realize that their
emotions are too powerful a force for most men to understand. This emotional
power shorts out a man’s brain circuits and sends him running for cover.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">As
a result, a woman needs to keep her emotional reactions to herself, or share then
with a trusted girlfriend. She SHOULD NOT reveal all of her emotions to the man
she wants to romance. Truly, the power of a woman’s emotions is more than a man
can handle. His mind is hardwired for logic and problem solving. Men don’t
understand emotions and process life through their emotions the way women do. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">The
answer for women? Learn to regulate your feminine power with feminine grace.
Outsmart him by giving him just what his ego wants. At the same time, use your feminine
grace to set the ground rules so he will know how you want to be treated. (Men
appreciate knowing what “the rules” are—and they respond by trying to please
you.)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Here
are some more tips on how to convert your feminine power to feminine grace:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Be
gracious. Grace leads to graciousness. Men don’t get a lot of graciousness from
the men in their lives, so they crave it from women.<o:p></o:p></span></li>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Speak
from the heart, but don’t overload his brain with too much emotion. He wants to
feel your emotion—he really does. He just doesn’t want to be overwhelmed by it.
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Expect
him to treat you with consideration and respect. That’s what you deserve, and
you should not settle for anything less. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">When
you turn on your feminine charms, you will find that there is real power in
controlling your feminine energy. Use this secret to behave from your source of
feminine power and he will feel good to be around you. And that’s crucial in
getting him to come back for more.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Secret
#2: Make Him Feel Like a Man <o:p></o:p></span></h3>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Why
is this secret that women need to know so secret? Probably because too few
women know how important this secret really is. Sure, women may make a man feel
manly in the beginning of a relationship because they are excited about a new
man. But, unfortunately, once they become comfortable in their relationship,
they tend to start making him feel like LESS like a man.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">How
big a mistake is this? It’s a deal breaker for most men. Instead of continuing
to use their feminine power in the form of feminine grace, too many women start
to chip away at a man’s masculine ego by criticizing him and trying to turn him
into something different. (Something better, right ladies?) A man wants to
please his woman, so he will go along with some of the changes. But after a
while most men will realize that the woman he is with is starting to make him
feel bad about himself—not wonderful. Trust me, a man wants to please the woman
of his dreams. But what if she can’t be pleased? Then he feels like a failure. What
man wants to be around a woman who makes him feel like he is a failure?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Here
are Kara Oh’s suggestions for making a man feel like a man:</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Let
him know how good a man you think he is. Tell him with your eyes, your smile,
and your kind words. Tell him he makes you feel like a lady.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
</li>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Let
him know how considerate he is—and let him know how much that pleases you.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Let
him know how smart you think he is. Stroke his ego a little. It might sound a
little manipulative, and maybe it is. But as a man, yours truly Chad Stone can
speak on behalf of men. For more on this topic, check out my book <a href="http://amzn.to/13hyWAj" target="_blank">Babe MagnetRules of Dating Over 50</a>.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Let him know strong and capable he is. (It’s
beginning to sound like men are just big, insecure babies on the inside. Well
ladies, they are.)<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Basically,
it comes down to this: a man wants to be his woman’s hero. We all want to be
the charming prince who comes to a beautiful damsel’s rescue. Men want to live
the fairy tale, too. And by the way, ladies, if he is not the kind of man you
can honestly appreciate, then he IS NOT the man for you.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span><br />
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<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-TQr_DTa4gxM/Uppf3Ss8LEI/AAAAAAAAAYI/zG6yOdsIufE/s1600/Heart+in+Snow.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" height="231" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-TQr_DTa4gxM/Uppf3Ss8LEI/AAAAAAAAAYI/zG6yOdsIufE/s320/Heart+in+Snow.jpg" width="320" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Would you rather be happy? Or would you rather be right--and not find the man of your dreams?</td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Does
this advice sound hopeless old-fashioned? Does it sound crazy to behave like
this in the 21<sup>st</sup> century? Not if you want the man of your dreams.
Dating IS old-fashioned. Relationships ARE based largely upon centuries of
old-fashioned behaviors. If you want to get a great man and live happily ever
after, you’ve got to use your feminine power in a gracious and graceful way.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">So,
what do you think of this advice? Is it old-fashioned and crazy? Or is it
classic brilliance that is just as true today as it was hundreds of years ago?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">I’d
love to hear your thoughts on this. Please comment and let me know if you think
I’m crazy—or not. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Sincerely,<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;"><o:p> </o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">Chad
Stone (affectionately known as the <a href="http://bit.ly/13Ril6y" target="_blank">Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</a>)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-11161911423326951972013-11-23T08:03:00.000-08:002013-11-23T08:03:01.633-08:00Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet acceptance speech<br />
<br />
<span style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Last week, yours truly--
the Middle-Aged Babe Magnet-- had the privilege of attending the awards
ceremony for the 2013 New Mexico-Arizona Book Awards. I was at the gala banquet
because my dating advice book, <a href="http://amzn.to/120GPWo" target="_blank"><span style="color: blue;">Confessions
of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</span></a>, was a finalist for Best Book in the Self-Help
Book category.<br />
<u1:p></u1:p><br />
<u1:p></u1:p><br />
I was completely honored to be nominated. More than 1,200 books had been
submitted for this year's awards. Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet, which is a humorous memoir and a dating advice book,
caught the eye of the judges and was declared a finalist.</span><u1:p></u1:p><br />
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"><o:p> </o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%;"></span></span><br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">My book was nominated for a major award, and I was excited! Could a Pulitzer Prize be far behind?</td></tr>
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<span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Because I have never won a major writing
award--and because I was quite convinced that <i>I was going to win,</i> I
wrote an acceptance speech. I knew that I wanted to say a few key things to the
assembled crowd about Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet, because not
everyone would be familiar with my dating advice/self-help book. My speech would be a great
opportunity to say Thank You!, but it would also be an opportunity to tell
others about my book.<br />
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So here's the speech I wrote:</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">"Thank
you so much for this honor!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">"Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe
Magnet</span></b><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;"> started out as therapy for me. I was newly divorced
after a long marriage, and I did not want to be single for the rest of my life.
But I was clueless about dating in the 21<sup>st</sup> Century. So I started
keeping a journal, and I wrote down the good, the bad and the funny things that
I experienced as a middle-aged single man.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">"Whenever
I discovered something I thought was either valuable or profound, I wrote this
little bit of wisdom down as a Babe Magnet Rule. The first one came to me right
after I had written down a list of the attributes I wanted in the Last Love of
My Life. I read the list and realized that I had just described a Total
Babe—someone who was completely out of my league. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">"So
I wrote down the first <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Babe Magnet Rule:
To be a Babe Magnet, you must believe you are a Babe Magnet.<o:p></o:p></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">"I
ended up with 92 Babe Magnet Rules, and they became the organizing framework
for <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe
Magnet</b>. These Babe Magnet Rules helped my book successfully become a hybrid
of a humorous memoir and a self-help book.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">"I
would like to thank the judges for getting past the very tongue-in-cheek title
of my book, and for finding a way to honor a book that doesn’t fit neatly into
a traditional genre. But most of all, I would like to thank my lovely wife,
Krista, for giving me the happy ending that my book needed—and for proving that
it’s never too late to find your soul mate.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">"Thank
you very much!"<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">I would soon be putting WINNER stickers on the cover of Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet book covers instead of FINALIST stickers!</td></tr>
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<span style="font-size: 13pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">That's a pretty good speech, if I do
have to say so myself.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">There was only one problem with my
speech. I never got a chance to deliver it. They announced the nominees in the
Best Self-Help book category, but when the emcee announced the winning book, he
didn't say <a href="http://amzn.to/120GPWo" target="_blank"><span style="color: blue;">Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</span></a>. He said
the title of some other book.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I was stunned. Obviously, a horrible
mistake had been made. I was supposed to be strolling up to the podium to make
my acceptance speech. BUT MY BOOK HADN'T WON. I felt just like all of the non-winning
actors on Oscars night. (Except I didn't have a TV camera on me while I tried
to look happy for the winner.)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">You know how everyone always says
it's an honor just to be nominated? Well, it is. But the people who say it's an
honor just to be nominated DID NOT WIN. The winners always say how great it is
to win. Because winning is a lot more fun.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Oh, don't worry about me. I'm over
it. It was an honor just to get nominated. But if you'd like to help soften the
blow for me, you can give copies of Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet to
everyone you know this holiday season.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">During my last radio show interview,
I told the host that anyone who has ever been single would enjoy the book. And
women like the book as much as men. So there you have it, <a href="http://amzn.to/120GPWo" target="_blank"><span style="color: blue;">Confessions
of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</span></a> is the perfect holiday gift.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">You heard it here first.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-65334349768545023352013-11-15T13:25:00.000-08:002013-11-15T13:25:22.424-08:00Dating After 40: Why Do Men Want Younger Women?
<span style="color: black;">One of the most common dating
after 40 questions I am asked by women goes something like this: “Why are so
many men who are dating after 40 looking for younger women? What’s up with a 60 year-old-man who clearly
wants to date a 40-year-old woman?”<o:p></o:p></span><br />
<br />
<span style="color: black;">Well, why is it that so many men who are dating after 40 clearly want
younger women? Or do we hear a lot about the over-40 single men who want
younger women, even though the majority of men are happy to date women in their
own age group. Which is it?<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="color: black;">There’s no question that
some older men do want to date younger women. One reason is simply because they
can. Our society has long accepted the idea of an older man dating a younger
woman. If a 45-year-old man can get a 30-year-old woman to go out with him, why
shouldn’t he? Unfortunately, though, the tables are rarely turned. Society has
not embraced the idea of an older woman going out with a younger man. When a
50-something woman does go out with a 30-something man, for example, we call
that woman a “cougar.” And the term “cougar” isn’t usually meant to be a
compliment. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="color: black;"><o:p> </o:p></span><br />
<span style="color: black;">So if society allows a man
to date a younger woman, what’s the age difference that’s acceptable? Is it OK
for a 60-year-old man to date a 40-year-old woman? How about a 65-year-old man
dating a 40-year-old woman? That’s 25 year difference in their ages. How about
a 30-year difference in age? Where does a single person draw the line? Or as
one woman commented, “It bothers me when I see a man who’s in his 60s going after
a woman in her 30s. What does that mean for me, at 53? Does that mean I have to
date men who are 75 and older?” <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="color: black;">I hope not. That would
really suck, wouldn’t it?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-INr3sBD5T7E/UoaOwGtVRbI/AAAAAAAAAXQ/dvlTPWBz4no/s1600/heffner-babes-diaper.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" height="346" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-INr3sBD5T7E/UoaOwGtVRbI/AAAAAAAAAXQ/dvlTPWBz4no/s400/heffner-babes-diaper.jpg" width="400" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">I don't know, Heff. How many blondes DOES it take to change a diaper? I'm thinking-- three.<br />
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<br />
<span style="color: black;">Let’s face it—getting older is
no picnic for either gender. A typical man has concerns about his virility,
while the typical woman tends to be concerned with her physical beauty. Many
men who are afraid that they are getting older (as in “past their prime”) try
to recapture the feeling of virility that they had as young men by dating a
younger woman. Dating a younger woman makes them feel younger, and that often
will give a man an extra shot of energy—and dare I say, testosterone. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="color: black;"><o:p> </o:p></span><br />
<span style="color: black;">But speaking as both a man
and the <a href="http://www.middleagedbabemagnet.com/" target="_blank">Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</a>, I can tell you that there are plenty of problems
with dating a younger woman. For one thing, there’s the lack of common cultural
experience. If the first band you fell in love with is the Beatles, and you
remember their Ed Sullivan Show appearances in 1964, then you’re not going to
have that in common with a younger woman who first got excited about Duran
Duran (“the band so nice they named it twice”). You’re probably not going to
like the same movies. The list goes on and on.</span><br />
<span style="color: black;"> <o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="color: black;">Another huge challenge in
dating someone who is significantly older or younger than you are has to do
with kids. Let’s say you’ve got older kids who are all out of the house—in
college or even into their adult lives. Then you start seeing someone whose
kids are still in elementary school. That’s a huge difference in your family
situations. And anytime you date someone with kids living in the home it
changes the dynamics of the dating situation. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="color: black;"><o:p> </o:p></span><br />
<span style="color: black;">So whether you’re a man
dating younger women or a woman dating younger men, you’ve got to deal with a
lot of age-related challenges.</span><br />
<span style="color: black;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="color: black;">That’s why, in my humble
experience and in my own personal research, I’ve found it much more likely that
long-term relationships blossom when the two people are close enough in age to
have a common bond of mutual experiences. Being at roughly the same stage of life
and coming from the same cultural experiences is a huge factor in finding
mutual compatibility.</span><br />
<span style="color: black;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="color: black;">So, gentlemen, go ahead and
date a few young babes if you need to get it out of your system. But I’ll bet
you five bucks that the woman you choose for a long-term relationship is closer
to your own age.</span><br />
<span style="color: black;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="color: black;">For more on this topic—and
just about everything else concerning dating and relationships, read <a href="http://amzn.to/13hyWAj" target="_blank">The Babe Magnet Rules of Dating Over 50: 101 Tips for Meeting, Winning & Keeping a New Love by yours truly, Chad Stone.</a></span><br />
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MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-44190360841689444582013-10-31T11:38:00.000-07:002013-10-31T11:38:14.571-07:00The Top Dating Over 50 Dealbreakers
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If you’ve been dating over 50 for a while, chances are you’ve got a
list of your own dating dealbreakers. Even if you’ve never written them down,
you know what they are. A woman named Valerie told me her dating over 50 deal breakers
are men who lie about themselves on their online profiles, men who are shorter
that she is, and men who lie about their height on their online profiles
because they are shorter than she is.<o:p></o:p></div>
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A single friend of mine named Cliff was once looking to date only
supermodels who weighed no more than 125 pounds. He seems to have relaxed his
standards after spending so many nights alone. Now he’s looking for women “who
have their own teeth.”<o:p></o:p></div>
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Dating Over 50<o:p></o:p></h3>
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It turns out that there are almost as many dating over 50 dealbreakers
as there are daters who are over 50. (And that’s also true for other age
groups.) A website called OurTime.com, which is targeted toward singles over
the age of 50, has released a survey of its members. They didn’t ask for my
opinion—probably because I am not a member of the website, I call myself the <a href="http://amzn.to/120GPWo" target="_blank">Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</a>, and I
am now happily married. Nevertheless, the results of their survey show the top
three deal breakers for the dating over 50 crowd.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">All single people have dating dealbreakers. But do you know what the top deal breakers are for dating over 50?</td></tr>
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The dealbreakers are….. (drumroll please!)….<o:p></o:p></div>
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Poor Health<o:p></o:p></h3>
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Number One: The person is dead. Just kidding. Dead people didn’t even
make the Top 10. But the number one dealbreaker is closely related to death—people
who are in poor health. 78% of the dating over 50 respondents said they were
not willing to go out with someone who was in poor health.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">I'm thinking this guy does not get many winks on Match.com.</td></tr>
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That’s a pretty good call if you ask me. Good health is so
fundamentally important to a good relationship that it almost goes without
saying. Who would want to start a relationship with someone who isn’t
physically well? Plus, there’s the underlying cause of the poor health. If
someone isn’t healthy because he or she doesn’t take good care of themselves,
that’s a huge red flag. Babe magnets take good care of themselves. So do babes. Do you really want to start a relationship with someone
who cares so little about himself that he puts himself at risk? I think not. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Poor Financial Health<o:p></o:p></h3>
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The Number Two dating over 50 dealbreaker is financial instability. 76
percent of the <a href="http://www.ourtime.com/">www.OurTime.com</a> members
cited financial issues as a deal breaker. By the time you have reached middle
age, you don’t want to get involved with someone who hasn’t gotten her
financial act together. The bohemian poor starving artists that have some
appeal at age 25 don’t look so good at age 52, when it’s time to get serious
about stashing away money for a long and happy retirement.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">The sign says it all, huh? I wonder if you can get this put on a t-shirt.</td></tr>
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One of the reasons I think that poor physical health and financial
instability rank #1 and #2 on this survey is that both of these are long-term
issues. If you’re unhealthy and your finances are a mess in your over-50 years,
it is unlikely things are going to get significantly better anytime soon.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<o:p> </o:p></div>
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Physical Attraction<o:p></o:p></h3>
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Coming in at Number Three on the survey is lack of physical attraction (with
75 percent of the survey respondents listing this). This is an obvious
dealbreaker for single people of all ages. We’re all looking for someone who
can spark our flame of passion. But of all the Top 3 deal breakers in this
survey, the lack of physical attraction is the one that offers the most
potential for short-term improvement. <o:p></o:p></div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Oh, baby! Do you love this guy's style, or what? He thinks he's a middle-aged babe magnet, but his only friend is the Domino's delivery guy.</td></tr>
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By the time we hit 50, many of us have gotten complacent with our
physical appearances. We might be wearing clothes that were fashionable in a
previous decade. (I am talking to you, men.) We might be wearing our hair in
the same, familiar style that we fell in love with as young adults. We might be
pretending that we have more hair than we actually do. (Key word: comb-over.)<o:p></o:p></div>
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Update Your Look<o:p></o:p></h3>
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One of my most common bits of advice for anyone who is dating over 50
is “update your look.” Find a friend who has good taste in today’s clothes and
go shopping. Get yourself some new clothes that fit you well. Take a long,
honest look in the mirror. If you’re stuck in a hairstyle rut, go to a salon
for a new look. If you haven’t been regularly exercising—start. Begin by
walking or biking. Join a gym and start getting your body in shape. You’ll look
better and feel better, too. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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Today’s over 50 singles are more active and more vibrant than
middle-aged folks were in the past. The ones who succeed in dating over 50 are
those men and women who keep themselves healthy, take care of their finances,
and deliberately don’t get stuck in a rut. <o:p></o:p></div>
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There’s one more thing: the best way you can make yourself happier and
more physically attractive is to smile more. Try it—starting right now.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<strong>Chad Stone is the author of </strong><a href="http://amzn.to/13hyWAj" target="_blank"><strong>The Babe Magnet Rules of Dating Over 50</strong></a><strong>.</strong> <o:p></o:p></div>
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MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-74401553358463543542013-10-18T14:39:00.000-07:002013-10-18T14:39:10.911-07:00Five Ways Women Kill Relationships<span style="font-family: inherit;">
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">In a previous
post here on Middle-Aged Babe Magnet, I talked about the Five Ways Men Kill Relationships. It’s only fair that I
talk about some of the behaviors that women use to chase men away. So this time
we cover the five ways that women kill relationships. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Women
believe that they’re better at relationships than men are. And they’re probably
right. Men can be clueless and self-centered. But women can also fail in the
relationship department. Women bring a complexity to the lives of men, and
sometimes men just can’t handle it. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Some of the
ways that women mess up relationships can be described as personality types. So
here are the behaviors of five personality types that women use to kill
relationships.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Ms. Bossy
Pants<o:p></o:p></span></h3>
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</span><span style="font-family: inherit;">Dating is complicated for the modern woman. Most
women have jobs, and many have high-paying careers. These women are used to
being not only independent—but in charge. They’ve amped up their masculine
energy to succeed in the working world, only to find out that this
hard-charging energy makes dating and relationships more difficult. Why?
Because the process of dating and developing relationships is VERY
old-fashioned. The man demonstrates his masculine energy by being the
instigator. He makes the first move, he plans dates, and he basically tries to
impress the woman. The woman, on the other hand, needs to relax in her role of
being the prize that the man is trying to win. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<o:p> </o:p></span><br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">There is nothing like a bossy woman to get a man all warm inside. Right, guys?</span></td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">When a modern career woman, who I will call Ms. Bossy
Pants, enters a new relationship, one of the most difficult things for her is
to let the man take the lead. She’s so used to handling things on her own—or
even telling people what to do, that she can’t help but make suggestions about
how a date should go. He picks a nice restaurant, and she says, “Well, the new
Asian Bistro is really quite fabulous. Wouldn’t you really rather go there?”
Ms. Bossy Pants has to learn how to wear a dress and let the man be in charge.
Otherwise, the only men she will attract are wimpy guys to will put up with all
of the bossing. <o:p></o:p></span><span style="font-family: inherit;">
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<span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2.<span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->The
Wedding Planner<o:p></o:p></span></h3>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">There are two basic ways of moving too fast in a
relationship. For men, it’s trying to get sex too quickly. For women, it’s
picking out the wedding invitation design after two dates. Both of these types
of moving too fast can kill a relationship. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">You casually mention the "M word" during an early date, and this is what he pictures.</span></td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><o:p></o:p></span> </div>
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<o:p>Healthy relationships usually progress in a natural, comfortable way. A relationship works best when both parties are moving along at the same speed. But if one is way ahead of the other, there’s bound to be some friction. If it’s the woman who is already wedding planning before he’s committed, then he is going to behave like a man and run like hell. I think the majority of cases of men bailing from relationships has to do with women who are planning for a lifetime of bliss when the guy can’t plan past Friday. </o:p></span><br />
<o:p><span style="font-family: inherit;"></span></o:p><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Ms.
Gold Digger<o:p></o:p></h3>
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Yes, ladies, even in the 21<sup><span style="font-size: x-small;">st</span></sup> century
there are women who are in it for the money. Remember Anna Nicole Smith (the
former Playboy Playmate) who married that 187-year-old billionaire oil tycoon?
Do you really think she fell madly in love with him? Me neither. Anna Nicole
was the ultimate Ms. Gold Digger. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">What do you REALLY want from a relationship?</td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Most women are not simply after a man’s money. But
men are still sensitive to the fact that some women are impressed by fancy
cars, jewelry and big houses. So when a woman even hints at being interested in
a man for his money, his warning sirens go off. This works both ways, too. When
a man starts acting like his girlfriend is going to be his Sugar Momma, she’s
going to give him a swift kick out the door. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->The
Man Fixer<o:p></o:p></h3>
There’s an old saying about how men and women
approach finding a mate. A man meets a woman and says, “She’s perfect. I hope
she never changes.” A woman meets a man and says, “He needs a lot <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p><br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">She's thinking: "This guy has potential. I can really turn him into someone nice." </td></tr>
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of work, but
I can whip him into shape.” A woman who behaves as a Man Fixer loves the
challenge of rehabbing a man who has lots of potential. Like a contractor who
can turn an ugly, dilapidated house into a neighborhood treasure, The Man Fixer
rolls up her sleeves and gets right to work. Lots of men are happy to make small
changes for their women. And lots of men are better off for the touch of a
smart woman with good taste. But most men don’t want to be rehab projects. When
a man feels like he’s a Man Fixer’s project, he’s going to bolt.<br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Miss
“Let Me Tell You How Horrible Men Are”<o:p></o:p></h3>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">
</span><span style="font-family: inherit;">What is it about some women and their man bashing?
Why are they still looking for Mr. Right if they’re convinced that every man is
a total jerk? Miss “Let Me Tell You How Horrible Men Are” is quite sure that
men are inferior creatures, but there she is on Match.com on a Friday night,
looking through the profiles of local men. She’s hoping to find the
one-in-a-million man who might be good <table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Men are not looking for a bad time. Do you think this woman would be any fun to be with on a date?</td></tr>
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enough for her—and at the same time
she’s quite sure that he doesn’t exist. Miss “Let Me Tell You How Horrible Men
Are” gets crabbier as she gets older, so she starts to actually repel men. This
leads to a self-fulfilling prophesy whereby men start to run away. Then she
REALLY believes that all men are horrible—they won’t even talk to her anymore.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">
</span><o:p><span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span></o:p><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">
</span><span style="font-family: inherit;">Ladies, there’s a simple fact about men that you
really need to hear: Men aren’t looking for a bad time, and they aren’t looking
for relationships with crabby women who are impossible to please. No man ever
wrote, “For a bad time call Lisa,” on a bathroom wall. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><st1:country-region w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Chad</b></st1:place></st1:country-region><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"> Stone is the author of <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><a href="http://amzn.to/120GPWo" target="_blank">Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</a></i>
and <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><a href="http://amzn.to/13hyWAj" target="_blank">Babe Magnet Rules of Dating Over 50</a>.</i>
Both books are available at Amazon.com.<o:p></o:p></b></span></div>
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</span>MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-66912450822627153162013-10-07T21:45:00.002-07:002013-10-07T21:45:24.032-07:00The Final Word on How to Have a Great First Date
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During our
last two posts, we talked about how to have a great first date. There’s all the
first date prep. There’s getting your great first date look together so you
make an awesome first impression. There’s choosing the right location for your
great first date. And, of course, you need to know what to talk about—and also
which topics to NOT talk about.<o:p></o:p></div>
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In many
ways, a first date is like a job interview. You are applying for the opening
for Girlfriend (or Boyfriend), and your goal is to get to the next interview.
How do you do that? Start by asking good questions. Listen to the answers. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Show that you are interested in your date and
what he or she says. Reveal some positive things about yourself and your interests
in an unforced, conversational way. Smile and enjoy yourself!<o:p></o:p></div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">"You're hired!" Well, that's sort of what a first date can be like.</td></tr>
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You might
indeed be on a “job interview” of sorts, but a first date is actually much more
than that. Sure, you’ve got to make a good impression and reveal the best
aspects of your personality. But you also have to get to know the person
sitting across from you. Because if a first date really is a job interview, it’s
a two-way job interview. You’re both interviewing each other, and it’s only
successful if you both shine.<o:p></o:p></div>
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You know how
to tell if your date is clicking? The time just FLIES by. The two of you never
run out of things to say. That’s how it was for Mueller when he first met
Daphne. Mueller had been on quite a few dates. He was almost a professional
dater, because he was very picky and he was looking for the love of his life.
When he met Daphne for dinner at his favorite Italian restaurant, he was
starting to wonder if he had been too picky. But Daphne had a smile that dazzled
him, and Mueller had a gentle way about him that touched Daphne’s heart. They
both couldn’t stop smiling at each other, and they made each other laugh. The
longer they talked, the more they had in common.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-0f5KTCrftyM/UlOJY5SrZII/AAAAAAAAAVE/XgB7L-FNRPo/s1600/time-flies.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" height="320" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-0f5KTCrftyM/UlOJY5SrZII/AAAAAAAAAVE/XgB7L-FNRPo/s320/time-flies.jpg" width="320" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">You've heard of the expression "time flies." No, it's not a literal thing, not matter how good this illustration is. But time whizzing by is one thing that makes a great first date, well, great.</td></tr>
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Then, there
was the big C-word—Chemistry. It’s difficult to describe chemistry using words,
but most of us know it when we feel it. Chemistry is a biological, physical and
emotional attraction to another person. Both Mueller and Daphne felt the
chemistry that night. Chemistry isn’t logical, so you can sometimes overthink
it and talk yourself out of it.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-tZm559OXwKU/UlOK05rbEuI/AAAAAAAAAVQ/-49RTI1uKws/s1600/Breaking-Bad-Chemistry.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" height="180" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-tZm559OXwKU/UlOK05rbEuI/AAAAAAAAAVQ/-49RTI1uKws/s320/Breaking-Bad-Chemistry.jpg" width="320" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">No. Not this kind of chemistry. The Good Kind of chemistry.</td></tr>
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Fortunately,
Mueller and Daphne felt the chemistry that night, and they paid attention to
it. Their romance is still going strong, and it looks like it will be going
strong for years to come.<o:p></o:p></div>
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And that, my
friends, is why you go out on a first date. Because sometimes, if you’re lucky
and if you’re paying attention, the chemistry cooks and the stars align and
that first date leads to the love of your life.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">All you need is love.</td></tr>
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For more tips on how
to meet the love of your life, read Chad Stone’s self-help memoir <a href="http://amzn.to/120GPWo" target="_blank">Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</a>. The
book was recently named a finalist for Best Self Help Book by the prestigious New
Mexico/Arizona Book Awards. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></h4>
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MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-46487994132691921212013-09-19T20:06:00.000-07:002013-09-19T20:08:26.031-07:00How to Have a Great First Date (Part 2) <br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Our discussion on the topic, How to Have a Great First Date continues...</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">You’re all
ready for a great first date with someone you barely know. Your body is clean, your
clothes are clean, and you’re dressed for dating success. You are ready to meet
the love of your life. (Hey, it could happen. I know this from personal
experience-- because it happened to me.)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Gentlemen,
if you are following the rules I set out in my book, <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Babe Magnet Rules of Dating Over 50</i>, you selected a suitable
location for this great first date. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-pZjD1CqsJxY/UjuzatjnXII/AAAAAAAAATs/Wsh9UiSBARs/s1600/strip-club.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="a really really bad first date" border="0" height="216" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-pZjD1CqsJxY/UjuzatjnXII/AAAAAAAAATs/Wsh9UiSBARs/s320/strip-club.jpg" title="bad first date" width="320" /></a></td></tr>
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This is NOT a good choice for a first date. Never, ever.</h4>
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<o:p><span style="font-family: Calibri;"> </span></o:p></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">If this is a
“meet and greet” date, then you’re probably meeting at a Starbucks of a similar
local coffee spot. There is nothing wrong with a coffee date. It’s a casual,
low-pressure way to get to know someone. If her or she sparks your interest,
great! If not, it’s no harm no foul, and you can move on.</span><br />
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A first date that doesn't work out is like incidental contact in a basketball game. "No harm, no foul." </h4>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">If you want
to make a bigger first impression, then you have invited her to dine with you
at a nice, but not too fancy, restaurant. In an age of “meet and greet” first
dates, a real dinner date is a great way to get a woman’s attention.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Now, follow
Babe Magnet Rule #30: Be the first to arrive for a date—especially a first
date. Give yourself a few minutes to claim the place as your own. This will
give you extra confidence and help put you in command of the date. And Babes <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">love</i> a confident man.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">When you
meet your date, use your best old-school manners. Guys, look your date in the
eyes and tell her how glad you are to meet her. Girls, look him in the eyes and
smile. He will melt.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-NwqZiq7IE9s/Uju3MP7JfrI/AAAAAAAAAUQ/Cabk5GfzqMk/s1600/smiling-older-woman.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img alt="smiling woman" border="0" height="221" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-NwqZiq7IE9s/Uju3MP7JfrI/AAAAAAAAAUQ/Cabk5GfzqMk/s320/smiling-older-woman.jpg" title="a woman's smile can melt a man" width="320" /></a></td></tr>
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It doesn't take much for a woman to melt a man. A nice smile will do it every time.</h4>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">So, now
what? What should you talk about? And what topics should you avoid? Well, the
number one topic you should NOT talk about on a first date is ex-spouses and
ex-lovers. The trouble with talking about ex-lovers is that it’s an emotionally
charged topic. Love Gone Bad is not a fun topic, and relationship breakups are
not happy events. Do you really want to travel into the Black Hole of a Dead
Relationship with someone you barely know? I think not.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Here’s the
<strong><em>best</em></strong> thing that could happen when you talk about your ex. You say something
like, “My ex-wife is a wonderful person, but over the years we grew less and
less compatible.” That sounds reasonable, right? You’re over your ex and you’re
not bitter. On some days, you’re so enlightened that your friends call you
Gandhi. But you still run the risk of your date only hearing the “my ex-wife is
a wonderful person” part and now she’s wondering if you’re really over her yet.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Try not to talk about ex-lovers, religion or politics on a first date.</h4>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">So, what do
you talk about? Fun stuff. Positive stuff. Amusing things that have happened to
you lately. Before your date, think about some fun stuff you can talk about.
One way to avoid the dreaded AWKWARD SILENCE OF A FIRST DATE is to always have
a few little stories to tell.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I suggest
that everyone have three “talk show stories” that they can tell during a date
or any social setting. These are the kinds of stories that are fun, easy to listen
to, and don’t challenge anyone’s beliefs or opinions.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Back when I
was single and was a self-proclaimed Middle-Aged Babe Magnet, I used to tell a
funny story about my youngest son. (Almost anyone can appreciate a funny kid
story.) I also told the story about how my cat adopted me after my dog died.
(Women love heartwarming stories about pets.) <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Awwwwwww!</h4>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Another
topic that always seemed to work was a lighthearted review of some of my worst
first dates. Women also like to share their bad date experiences. Bingo, you’ve
got a pleasant conversation going. Just make sure that your bad date stories
don’t reveal anything troubling about you—like showing up late for dates,
getting drunk on dates, or forgetting to wear pants.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Once again,
we’re out of time here at the Middle-Aged Babe Magnet Blog. Next time we finish
the topic of How to Have a Great First Date with the best tip ever about how to
ensure that you’ll get a second date. </span></div>
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author of <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><a href="http://amzn.to/120GPWo" target="_blank">Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</a></i> and <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><a href="http://amzn.to/13hyWAj" target="_blank">Babe Magnet Rules of Dating Over 50</a>.</i> Both books are available at Amazon.com. <o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-22993513110794373292013-09-11T21:17:00.000-07:002013-09-12T14:00:06.918-07:00How to Have a Great First Date (Part 1)<br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">Is there
anything as nerve-wracking as a first date? Of course there is. A root canal is
no picnic, and neither is a vasectomy. But when it comes to a social encounter
with a fellow civilized human being, then yes, a first date ranks up near the
top of the Industrial Strength Deodorant moments. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">What should
you wear? Ladies, here's a little dating advice: you want to look cute and maybe a little sexy—without looking
skanky. A little black dress that might be perfect for a nighttime dinner date
is probably over the top for an afternoon “meet and greet” at Starbucks.</span></div>
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<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-zTgrrXpeZZA/UjE8xBAOZvI/AAAAAAAAATA/Im_-9KXwxKE/s1600/little-black-dress.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" height="320" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-zTgrrXpeZZA/UjE8xBAOZvI/AAAAAAAAATA/Im_-9KXwxKE/s320/little-black-dress.jpg" width="242" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">A little black dress might be fine for a nighttime date with someone you already know well. But for a first date at Starbucks? I don't think so.</td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Should you
wear lipstick on a first date? If you’re a woman—absolutely. Deep red lipstick
for a daytime first date? Probably not.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">And men,
what should you wear? Some good dating advice would be to start with pants. Wearing pants on a date is always a
good idea. Wear clean pants, not the crusty jeans you’ve been wearing all week.
Don’t wear ratty, worn out shorts. And wear a nice shirt---no t-shirts and not
some wrinkled thing you found lying on your bedroom floor. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">What is it
with men’s fashion these days, anyway? The average man looks so “casual” that,
in previous decades, he would qualify as a total slob. Even millionaires look
like slobs. What’s up with that? With all their money, they can get away with
looking like slobs. But unless you have literally millions of dollars, show
your date a little respect and dress nicer that you would if you were going out
with the guys.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-u_UtYeKQgwY/UjE959EUt_I/AAAAAAAAATM/ssO9tJ7ZZys/s1600/bedHead101.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><img border="0" height="239" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-u_UtYeKQgwY/UjE959EUt_I/AAAAAAAAATM/ssO9tJ7ZZys/s320/bedHead101.jpg" width="320" /></span></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Can you say "Bad Hair Day?" Gentlemen, this is not a good look when you're trying to impress a woman.</span></td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Along those
same dating advice lines, gentlemen, what’s with the bedhead hair? Don’t you own a comb? I
love the line from the old Rod Stewart song, “Combed my hair in a thousand
ways, but I turned out looking just the same.” Mind you, this is from the guy
who invented the rooster hair look. But at least he TRIED to get his hair to
look good.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Ladies, you
need very little dating advice help in picking out shoes that are appropriate for a first
date. Just don’t wear those GIANT wedgies that make you look wobbly and top
heavy. Men think those shoes are really silly.</span> </span></div>
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<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-lg6RIvFEcMo/UjE-ZSSyXzI/AAAAAAAAATU/pldd8pe3vj8/s1600/ugly-women's-shoes.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" height="300" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-lg6RIvFEcMo/UjE-ZSSyXzI/AAAAAAAAATU/pldd8pe3vj8/s320/ugly-women's-shoes.jpg" width="320" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">No, no, no, no, no!</td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Men, you need a lot more help
than that when picking out shoes. A typical man will wear the first pair of shoes
that he sees in his closet. Since he just wore his ratty old athletic shoes,
those are the one he will wear to his first date.</span><o:p><span style="font-family: Calibri;"> </span></o:p></div>
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<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-w0yVShURPKE/UjE-mlIC9NI/AAAAAAAAATc/x1LUHTKkVXg/s1600/ugly+men's+shoes.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-w0yVShURPKE/UjE-mlIC9NI/AAAAAAAAATc/x1LUHTKkVXg/s1600/ugly+men's+shoes.jpg" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Guys, these shoes are SO CLOSE to working. But, no.</td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Gentlemen,
for the love of God, ask a female friend for advice about which shoes to wear.
I know you think this is stupid, but it’s not. Women will notice your shoes.
You don’t want to be one of those guys who doesn’t get the girl because he was
wearing ugly or stupid shoes.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">OK. You’ve
got yourself looking good (ladies) and looking just barely good enough (men).
Now put a very small amount of perfume or cologne on. You don’t want to smell
like the perfume counter at Macy’s. You want a faint, pleasant smell that
doesn’t call attention to itself. Men, use about one-tenth the amount that you
think you should use. Otherwise you’re going to stink up your first date with
the smell of a gay man/wimpy metrosexual, and heterosexual women are not
looking for gays or wimps.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Now you’re
ready to walk out the door for your first date, but we’ve run out of time here
at the Middle-Aged Babe Magnet blog.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Coming up
next time: what to talk about and what you should NEVER talk about on a first
date.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Chad Stone is the
author of <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><a href="http://amzn.to/120GPWo" target="_blank">Confessions of a Middle-AgedBabe Magnet</a></i> and <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><a href="http://amzn.to/13hyWAj" target="_blank">Babe Magnet Rules ofDating Over 50</a>.</i> Both books are available at <a href="http://amazon.com/">Amazon.com</a>. <o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-11094764668631757862013-08-27T07:50:00.000-07:002013-08-27T07:50:25.801-07:00When the Government Becomes a Matchmaker
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 115%;">It’s
stressful enough when Mom wants you to get married. She turns into a
matchmaker. “Why don’t you go out with …?” becomes a frequent question. She nags,
she questions, and she probes into your personal life. She’s on hyper alert for
every mention of a single man, a single woman, or an upcoming wedding. So imagine
what a downer it is when the government wants you to get married and turns into
a matchmaker, too.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Need a matchmaker? Try a speed dating event like this one!</td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt;">That
is exactly what’s happening in South Korea. </span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The country is in a tizzy
about falling birthrates, but it is still tied to conservative ideas about marriage
and babies. So the government of South Korea is pushing its single citizens to
match up, already.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p> </o:p></span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">According
to a recent story in the New York Times, solving the difficulties of South
Korea’s hopelessly single men and women has become a national priority. So much
so, in fact, that the government has been sponsoring dozens of speed dating
parties in the hopes that Mr. Wong can meet Miss Right. (NOTE: I couldn’t
resist using the previous line. It’s punny. Nevermind that Wong isn’t even a
Korean name. Please forgive me.)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">South
Korea once depended on arranged courtships to produce weddings and marriages. Until
the 1980s, young people relied upon family connections and hired a Patti
Stanger (or maybe two Patti Stangers) to help find their spouses. But as young
adults moved from ancestral villages to bigger cities, the traditional
social/matchmaking networks started to break down. More and more families
started turning to dating services that performed background checks. Today, arranged
matches are becoming a thing of the past. So, in 2010, the Ministry of Health
and Welfare began actively promoting dating parties and held four parties that
year that brought together workers and employees at local corporations.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p> </o:p></span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I
once went to a speed dating event myself. It was sponsored by Cupid.com rather
than Uncle Sam. I approached the event as a grand adventure, and I ended up enjoying
the evening. I met 13 single women that night, and I dated three of them. But,
alas, I did not meet the last love of my life, and I did not get married as a
result of attending the speed dating event. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The
government of South Korea has had some success as a matchmaker, however.
Couples who have met at the government-sponsored dating event have tied the
knot. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p> </o:p></span><br />
<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">All
of this begs the question: how would you react to your government setting up
dating parties? Would you attend if Big Brother was pushing for you to get
married? Would you be open to the possibility of meeting your future wife at a
government-sponsored event?<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p> </o:p></span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">How
about if a hefty tax refund was part of the deal?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><o:p> </o:p></span><span lang="EN" style="color: black; font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12pt; mso-ansi-language: EN; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">This
is Chad Stone, author of <a href="http://amzn.to/13hyWAj" target="_blank">The Babe Magnet Rules of Dating Over 50</a>, signing off.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-77604575375124790222013-07-12T17:30:00.001-07:002013-07-12T17:30:13.749-07:00Old Dating Advice for Men that Still Works<h3>
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<span style="font-family: CharisSILRegular; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-no-proof: yes;">The more dating
changes, the more it stays the same<o:p></o:p></span></h3>
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<span style="font-family: CharisSILRegular; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-no-proof: yes;">Ever wonder how
you should talk to a woman? Men have wanted to know how to behave and what to
talk about on dates for centuries. A book called </span><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: CharisSILRegular; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">A Gentleman’s Guide to Etiquette</span></i><span style="font-family: CharisSILRegular; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> was published in 1875, and some
of the dating advice for men is still pretty good. Sure, you have to get past
the old-fashioned language. But the 138-year-old dating advice for men tips
still ring true, which proves that if your great-great grandfather were alive
today, he might be able to help you become a babe magnet.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: CharisSILRegular; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">So let’s have a look at some
dating advice for men from 1875, and tweak it just a little to make it relevant
dating advice for men and women in 2013.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: CharisSILRegular; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">When on a date… “It is ill-bred
to put on an air of weariness during a long speech from another person, and
quite as rude to look at a watch, read a letter … <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>or in any other action show that you are tired
of the speaker or his subject.” <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">In dating
advice for men and women in 2013, that means</i> <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">put your damn cell phone away and pay attention to what your date is
saying.<o:p></o:p></i></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: CharisSILRegular; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>“If you have traveled … do not be constantly
speaking of your journeyings. Nothing is more tiresome than a man who commences
every phrase with, ‘When I was in Paris,’ or, ‘In Italy I saw…’” <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">In dating advice for men in 2013, this also
applies to the name-dropping of famous people.</i> <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Do not mention Brad Pitt, Jennifer Lopez, or any other celebrity just
to make yourself sound cool.</i></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: CharisSILRegular; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">“A man of real intelligence and
cultivated mind is generally modest. He may feel when in everyday society, that
in intellectual acquirements he is above those around him; but he will not seek
to make his companions feel their inferiority, nor try to display this
advantage over them.” <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Amen, baby. If you
try to sound superior, you’ll sound like an a-hole.</i><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: CharisSILRegular; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">“To be a good listener is as
indispensable as to be a good talker, and it is in the character of listener
that you can most readily detect the man who is accustomed to good society.” <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Don’t bogart the conversation, men. You have
two ears and one mouth for a reason. You should listen twice as much as you
talk. If your date is shy, ask some questions about herself to get her started.<o:p></o:p></i></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: CharisSILRegular; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">“Never notice it if others make
mistakes in language. To notice by word or look such errors in those around you
is excessively ill-bred.” <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Well, you’ll
probably notice poor word choice and improper pronunciation, but don’t make fun
of it. You ain’t no Einstein yourself.</i><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: CharisSILRegular; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">“Avoid boasting. To speak of your
money, connections, or the luxuries at your command is in very bad taste.” <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">That’s still good dating advice for women <u>and</u>
men. If you try to impress a date with your money and possessions, you will end
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<span style="font-family: CharisSILRegular; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">It is extremely rude and
pedantic, when engaged in general conversation, to make quotations in a foreign
language. <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Or better yet, don’t speak in a
“foreign” language unless your date also speaks the language.</i></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: CharisSILRegular; font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">A lady of sense will feel more
complimented if you converse with her upon instructive, high subjects, than if
you address to her only the language of compliment. In the latter case she will
conclude that you consider her incapable of discussing higher subjects, and you
cannot expect her to be pleased at being considered merely a silly, vain
person, who must be flattered into good humor.” <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">In other words, don’t talk about Fast & Furious 6. But if you get a
hankering to talk about the Big Bang, go for it. (The Big Bang Theory, not the
Big Bang TV show.) </i><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<em>Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</em>, signing off in a time-honored,
respectful way. <a href="http://amzn.to/120GPWo"><span style="color: #3ca7dd;">http://amzn.to/120GPWo</span></a> <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Men aren’t
always good at relationships. Sometimes men do stupid things to kill relationships. It says so right here in the “Duh” file.
Sometimes men can be focused things like work and forget they have to invest
some time and emotional energy in their love relationships. Sometimes men
expect women to be just as simple as men are—which can really kill a
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There are
lots of relationship-killing behaviors that men cluelessly use to chase their
women away. These relationship killers, when used excessively, can be described
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So here are
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Mr. Needy<o:p></o:p></h3>
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The first way that men kill relationships is by behaving like a needy, wimpy man. This is not attractive to a woman. In
fact, it’s a complete turn-off. Most women are attracted to the masculine
traits of strength, decisiveness, leadership and vision. When a woman lists
what she’s looking for in a man, she never says, “I want a man with no self
confidence and no friends, who needs my undivided attention constantly.” One of
the reasons a man can turn into Mr. Needy is he falls for the woman before she
falls for him. When that happens, he needs to make sure he doesn’t get whiny
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We all arrive in a new relationship with some baggage. Some
of us arrive on a first or second date with enough baggage for an around the
world cruise. Some of us arrive with just a small overnight bag, and we tuck it
under the table and never mention it.
Mr. Baggage Man doesn’t just have a lot of baggage—he’s attached to it.
It defines who he is. He might have a bag packed with all of his broken-heart
wounds. Another is filled with how “bad and wrong” women are. And he always
seems to be comparing his new girlfriend to his last lover.</div>
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It’s human nature to do a little comparing. As you get to
know a new lover, you can’t help but compare her to your last girlfriend. But
gentlemen, keep it to yourself. Most women do not want to hear about how they
measure up to the last wife or girlfriend. When Mr. Baggage Man says, “My
ex-wife always loved my jokes” or “My old girlfriend liked it when I sat around
watching football on TV,” he doesn’t realize that he’s about to have another
ex-girlfriend. </div>
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Mr. Tool<o:p></o:p></h3>
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Calling a man a “tool” is not a compliment. We’re not
talking about a guy who can fix anything around the house. Mr. Tool thinks he’s
God’s gift to women. He is hot and he knows it. Of course, he’s never as hot as
he thinks he is, but you can’t convince him of that. Mr. Tool is so full of
himself that he thinks every woman should be flattered just to be in his
presence. Because of his inflated opinion of himself, he usually treats women
like crap. Sure, some women will put up with this kind of behavior for a
while—as long as Mr. Tool looks like Brad Pitt and can show her a good time.
But there’s a reason that Mr. Tool has a long string of relationships that
don’t last very long. When you’re a jerk, no one wants to be around you. </div>
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Mama’s Boy<o:p></o:p></h3>
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A woman wants a man who acts like a man. Men are supposed
to make their own decisions and be responsible for themselves. It’s a real
turn-off for a woman when she sees a man who still clings to his mother’s apron
strings. It’s one thing for a man to treat his mother with respect and talk to
her regularly about what’s going on in his life. But when he starts cancelling
dates or previous commitments with his girlfriend so he can run over to his
mother’s house to change a light bulb, that’s Mama’s Boy territory.
Unfortunately, ladies, Mama can really turn on the guilt machine to get her
Mama’s Boy to do what she wants. It’s really hard to compete with that. If he’s
too much of a Mama’s Boy, then you might want to find a real man. </div>
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Mr. Cheapskate<o:p></o:p></h3>
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There’s a wonderful magic in a relationship when a man is
actively trying to win the heart of a woman. He wants to please her and he
wants to impress her. And for centuries, one of the most successful ways to do
this is for the man to treat her like a princess by taking her to fine
restaurants, taking her to concerts, buying her flowers and finding pleasant
ways to spend his hard-earned money on her. The early phase of a relationship
can be an expensive proposition for a man, but if he wants to win the heart of
a woman, being generous and gracious is a proven path to success.</div>
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But here in the era of gender equality and women who earn
good incomes, sometimes a man can start to think that he shouldn’t pay for
everything. Taken to the extreme, a guy like this starts to look like Mr.
Cheapskate. If a man asks a woman out on a date—especially a first, second or
third date—he should pay for it. When a woman graciously offers to pay for
dessert, don’t become Mr. Cheapskate. Instead, graciously thank her and
decline. Mr. Cheapskate doesn’t want to spend his money on a woman, because
that leaves him less money to spend on computer games and expensive toys. But
what kind of message does that send to the woman he’s with?</div>
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<b>Chad Stone is the
author of <a href="http://amzn.to/120GPWo" target="_blank">Confessions of a Middle-AgedBabe Magnet </a>and <i><a href="http://amzn.to/13hyWAj" target="_blank">Babe Magnet Rules ofDating Over 50</a>.</i> Both books are available at Amazon.com. <o:p></o:p></b></div>
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MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-51122826881646239732013-05-26T13:18:00.000-07:002013-05-26T13:23:28.169-07:00The Magic of Great Relationships<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;">“I
think it's basically magic. There is such a thing as magic, and the Beatles
were magic.”</span><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 9pt;"><br />
</span><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 9pt;"> </span><i><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 11pt;">-- <span style="background: white;"> Paul McCartney, in a Rolling Stone interview,
2007</span></span></i><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 9pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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How is it that some relationships are like seeds that never
sprout, some are like seedlings that die before really taking root, and some
grow and flourish to produce an abundant harvest of love?</div>
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It’s basically magic. How else do you explain it?</div>
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That’s the way Paul McCartney explained why the Beatles’
music continues to speak to people after all these years. He didn’t say “we
wrote great songs” or “we were good <i>and</i>
we got lucky” or anything specific. He just said it was magic.</div>
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I think Paul McCartneyis right. There are times when magic takes
over, and there’s no way to explain it logically. It happened with the Beatles.
And sometimes it happens when two people meet each other.</div>
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I know this is true in relationships, because it happened to
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When I was middle-aged, single and actively dating, there
were times when I wondered why I was going on so many dates. Why was it taking
so long to meet the right woman? Why was the process taking so long? What was I
doing wrong? Where was the magic?</div>
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I had gotten really good at dating. I had mastered the fine
art of the First Date, during which I would be witty and charming as I told
funny stories that illustrated the highlights of my life. But in the 1.7
million first dates that I went on, there was precious little magic.</div>
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At first I thought I wasn’t trying hard enough. So I tried
harder. I went out on more dates, and I learned even more about what women want
in a man and how to present myself as that kind of man. (And I developed a list
of Babe Magnet Rules to prove it.) Sometimes I got a little glimpse of magic,
but it quickly (in a manner of days or weeks) vanished like a mirage in the
desert.</div>
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A friend of mine thinks he may have found his magic. He and
his lady have been together for many months, and their relationship continues
to grow. From when I stand, it looks quite magical.</div>
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Another friend of mine, who I will call Asilla, has been
dating a man for a couple of months. Whenever I watch them when they are
together, he looks like a man who has found relationship magic, but she’s not
so sure. So unless Asilla thinks there is magic in the relationship, there
won’t be any magic for either of them. Relationship magic only happens when
both parties feel it and embrace it.</div>
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So even though I wrote a book about dating and
relationships—a book that’s packed full of practical advice about how to be the
most attractive and desirable man or woman you can be, I still can’t offer much
advice about how you can find magic.</div>
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But I do know this: you have to be open to the magic when it
does come. If you’re shut down emotionally or if you’re simply not ready to
embrace it, you’re not going to recognize relationship magic when it starts to
bloom. You’ll walk away and wonder why the magic of love never arrives in your
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MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-46884337828153096722013-04-29T15:37:00.000-07:002013-04-29T15:39:06.309-07:00Advice for a First Anniversary Date<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I love it when people ask me for advice about dating and relationships. I love sharing what I learned when I was single, and what I've learned since I got remarried. It makes me feel smart when someone asks for my opinion, and I am happy to help folks find true love--and to help their relationships grow stronger.<br />
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The other day a friend of mine (who I will call Hector because that's an awesome name and I've never actually known anyone named Hector) asked me for advice about an upcoming date. This is no ordinary date--it's the anniversary of his first date with Aphrodite, the woman he now loves and adores.<br />
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So far so good, right?<br />
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First Anniversary Date</h3>
Hector said he was planning to take Aphrodite to the same restaurant they went to on their first date. That's a sweet idea, and it's very sentimental in all the right ways. But if that's all he does on his First Anniversary, then Aphrodite is going to be disappointed.<br />
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Why? Because she's been there and done that. If Hector wants his woman to be happy, he needs to step it up. He can't do the same exact thing he did last year and expect Aphrodite to be happy with it. That's just not the way women think. If he does the same thing, she will wonder why he isn't trying harder.<br />
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(Ladies, if I am wrong about this, please leave a Comment and tell me so. But I'm pretty confident about this.)<br />
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Anniversaries Should Be Special</h3>
I told Hector the same old restaurant would be a great place to START his first anniversary date--for drinks. Then he should take her to a much fancier place for a romantic dinner. Make a big show about escorting her to the second restaurant--and do not let her know where they are going next. A women loves it when a man takes charge. All she has to do is enjoy the ride.<br />
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"But if you insist on going to the same old place for dinner, you need to up the ante by giving her a romantic gift," I told Hector. "You can't go wrong with jewelry." <br />
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Hector looked at me with wide eyes. "It sounds like I need to step up my game," he said.<br />
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"Bingo," I replied.<br />
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Other Dating and Relationships Topics</h3>
Let me know if there's a dating and relationships topic that you would like to see me address in a future blog post. I would love to know what issues you're dealing with and I'd love to give you an opinion. Thanks!<br />
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I would also like to thank the good folks at The Awesome Gang for the great review they posted about Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet by (yours truly) Chad Stone. You can read the review by clicking here: <a href="http://awesomegang.com/confessions-of-a-middle-aged-babe-magnet/">http://awesomegang.com/confessions-of-a-middle-aged-babe-magnet/</a><br />
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Also check out my website at <a href="http://www.middleagedbabemagnet.com/">www.middleagedbabemagnet.com</a>. Until next time, this is Chad Stone, the Middle-Aged Babe Magnet, signing out.MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-60260749089345369452013-04-17T12:39:00.000-07:002013-04-17T12:39:25.207-07:00Advice for Everyone Sometimes we all need to be reminded about stuff we already know. This goes for folks who are single, happily in relationships, dating over 50, young, old enough to be collecting Social Security—all of us.<br />
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This list of helpful life advice started out as an email pass-along that a friend sent to me. I have edited it, added to it, and deleted some items to make it a set of guidelines that will help you stay optimistic—no matter what experiences each day brings you. <br />
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1. Life doesn’t always seem fair, but it's still good.<br />
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2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.<br />
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3. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about. <br />
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4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will. <br />
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5. Pay off your credit cards every month. And cut up the ones you aren’t using.<br />
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6. You don't have to win every argument. Just stay true to yourself.<br />
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7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.<br />
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8. Make a conscious effort to attract positive, loving people into your life. Then don’t be surprised when the negative, crabby people drop out of your life.<br />
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9. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.<br />
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10. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.<br />
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11. It's OK to let your children see you cry.<br />
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12. Life is short. Try to enjoy every moment of it.<br />
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13. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.<br />
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14 Stop often to take a deep breath. It calms the mind.<br />
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15. Get rid of anything that isn't useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.<br />
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16. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.<br />
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17. It's never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.<br />
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18. Go after what you love in life, and don't take “no” for an answer.<br />
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19. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.<br />
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20. Over prepare, and then go with the flow.<br />
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21. Believe in miracles. You won’t experience them if you don’t believe in them. <br />
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22. Remember that the most important sex organ is the brain.<br />
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23. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.<br />
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24. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'<br />
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25. Always choose life.<br />
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26. Forgive. <br />
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27. What other people think of you is none of your business. <br />
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28. Time heals almost everything. Let time do its job.<br />
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29. Life is change. Go with it. <br />
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30. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.<br />
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31. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple. <br />
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32. Plant a garden. <br />
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33. If you love someone, tell them “I love you” as often as you can. <br />
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34. Your children get only one childhood. Help them enjoy it.<br />
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35. Be nice to people, even when they don’t deserve it. But always stand up for yourself.<br />
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36. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.<br />
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37. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.<br />
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38. Be thankful.<br />
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39. You will be happier today if you are optimistic about tomorrow.<br />
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40. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.<br />
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<br />MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-81457570363913597852013-03-29T10:50:00.000-07:002013-03-29T10:50:41.971-07:00Five dating success tips <br />
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Today I want to talk about dating success tips. If there’s one thing that prevents dating success it is the random and casual way that many singles approach dating—and love in general. Let me tell you, a hit-and-miss, unfocussed attitude toward finding the love of your life is NOT a good way to achieve dating success.<br />
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What do you do when you start looking for a job? You get organized. You take stock of your strengths. Your resume gets polished up. You think about what kind of job you want. Then, if you’re smart, you will start networking among your friends and business associates. You ask them if they know of any job openings. You search Craigslist for job postings and you check out other websites. You get ready for job interviews. When you get the call for an interview, you venture out to impress potential employers with your job skills and your people skills.<br />
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All of these things help ensure your job-seeking success. Why not use the same methodical approach to ensure your dating success? Your search for the love of your life is worth a little preparation and effort, isn’t it? <br />
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There is no reason to leave your search for a Significant Other to fate. Be a dating success story by making the search for your new love a top priority in your life. Use the following five dating success tips to make sure you find love.<br />
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1. Turn on your dating mind</h3>
Get into the dating mindset. Don’t just go through the motions. Be absolutely sure that you really want to date. Now is the time to affirm, “I am ready to find the love of my life!” Decide that you are now going to actively participate in the world of dating, and you are going to enjoy the process. (Please do not be one of those singles who just goes through the motions. Dating is not about killing time; it’s about finding love and companionship.) <br />
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2. State your intentions</h3>
Not everyone is looking for someone to marry and live with for the rest of their lives. Some singles are not yet ready for a serious commitment. That’s OK. Just get clear about what you want. Greg Behrendt, author of the bestselling book He’s Just Not That Into You, says that in order to find the right lover for you, you have to believe that he or she is actually out there. And that you’ll find them! <br />
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This is very similar to making New Year’s resolutions or setting any other kind of goal. Stating your dating intention is the same thing. Be clear that you are ready to find the love of your life. This is also important: know what you want in a romantic partner so you will recognize them when they appear in your life. <br />
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3. Turn on your dating success magic</h3>
Get your act together if you want to attract love. Turning on your dating success magic is almost like putting on a favorite jacket. When you put on your favorite jacket, you feel better about yourself. You are more confident and more comfortable. This will help you attract the highest quality woman (or man) into your life. Getting your mind into a positive state is an important part of dating success. It also helps to get your body into shape, too. Go to the gym more often. Eat healthier food and get plenty of rest. Getting your healthy glow back will help make you look and feel your best.<br />
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How many places are there where you could meet someone new? Well, how many places do you go to? The grocery store. Your workplace. The local deli. A coffee shop. Yoga class. Walking down the street. The list is absolutely endless. Get yourself out into the real world and watch for opportunities to meet the love of your life. Strike up friendly conversations. Ask someone out for coffee. When someone asks you out, for heaven’s sake say Yes! Not every date is going to turn out great, but sometimes a so-so date will lead to a party where you’ll meet someone who lights your fire. <br />
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5. Welcome the adventure</h3>
Dating can be a wonderful adventure. Enjoy the ride! After talking to hundreds of single people—and experiencing dating again after my own divorce, I am convinced that dating success isn’t just about the end result. The happiest single people who are looking for romance are the ones who enjoy the dating process. It’s fun to meet new people. It’s fun to get out of your apartment. If you enjoy the journey, you are more likely to have dating success. If you are having fun along the way, you are actually MORE LIKELY to meet the love of your life. <br />
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For more great information about dating and relationships, looking for love and how to find the humor in dating, visit my website at <a href="http://www.middleagedbabemagnet.com/">www.middleagedbabemagnet.com</a>. <br />
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MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-18221108514571959882013-03-15T13:18:00.001-07:002013-03-15T13:18:55.824-07:00Middle-Aged Dating and the Gag Reflex<br />
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Yeah, I know. Middle-Aged Dating and the Gag Reflex is the weirdest title I’ve ever used for a blog post. But stay with me—it’s not what you think.<br />
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The idea for this story about dating over 50 came to me earlier this week at the dentist’s office—which is the first time I ever got an idea for the Middle-Aged Babe Magnet blog while sitting in a dentist’s chair. I was in for my six month cleaning, and it was time to get those “bite xrays” taken. You know the kind—you bite down on this cardboard thing and the dental hygienist runs out of the room so she won’t get zapped with radiation. Then she runs back in and takes the cardboard contraption out of your mouth.<br />
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I don’t know about you, but I hate the whole bite xray process. Those cardboard things stick into my gums and make me gag. I have what can be described as a strong gag reflex, and I hate having foreign objects in my mouth. <br />
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I know I’m flirting with TMI here, but stay with me. When I told my new dental hygienist about my tendency to gag during the dental xray process, she asked me if I had ever tried salt. She said putting a little salt on your tongue can interrupt the gag reflex.<br />
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“Do you have any salt?” I asked. She said yes, and put some on my tongue. Well, Holy New Pontiff from Argentina, the freakin’ salt worked. No more gagging. I’m 58 years old, and somebody just taught me a new trick. From now on, I’ll be putting a little salt on my tongue before I get dental xrays—even if I have to bring my own salt. <br />
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I love it when I learn a new trick, and I’m a firm believer in continuing to learn new tricks no matter how old you are. I certainly learned a lot of new things after my mid-life divorce, and a lot of them were about dating, women, and relationships.<br />
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In fact, I even wrote a Babe Magnet Rule about that topic that appears in <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Confessions-Middle-Aged-Babe-Magnet-Adventure/dp/0985047917/ref=tmm_pap_title_0" target="_blank">Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</a>:<br />
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<strong>Babe Magnets are not afraid to learn new tricks. </strong><br />
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One of the things about dating after 50 for a lot of people is being in a situation that’s unfamiliar to them. They’ve probably just gotten divorced, and they’ve forgotten how to go out on a date. They have to relearn the whole courtship process. And sometimes they have to learn new things—such as online dating.<br />
If you’re not willing to learn new things, you’re going to crash and burn in the dating world. You’re going to approach dating as if it were 1983, and you’re going to look and act like a doofus. (This is equally true for both men and women.)<br />
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The best thing you can do is to be open to learning new things. Read books about dating. Talk to your single friends. Talk to your recently married friends, and find out what worked for them when they were single. Be open to new ideas and trying new things.<br />
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Dating over 40, or dating over 50, or dating at any age can be a time of new growth and new learning. Please don’t be one of those people who says, “dating over 50 is so hard” or “there aren’t any interesting women” or “all of the good men are already taken.” None of those things are true—and there are millions of later-in-life relationships to prove it.<br />
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So, learn something new. Try something you’ve never done before. Even if that means putting a little salt on your tongue.<br />
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MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-14044439418983447472013-03-01T17:58:00.000-08:002013-03-01T17:58:29.608-08:00Best Senior Dating SitesI just found out about a great website for folks who aren't afraid to proudly claim that they are old enough to be "seniors." I'm not sure what the age requirement is for seniorhood-- AARP says 50, my local movie theater says 62, and most people think of 65 as retirement age.You decide.<br />
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Anyway, the site is <a href="http://bestseniordatingsites.org/">bestseniordatingsites.org</a>. Visit the homepage and you'll see a roundup of the 25 best dating sites for seniors. Delve a little deeper by clicking on one of the Latest Posts links (on the left side of the Home page) and you can read some great stories.<br />
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I liked Top 100 Senior Dating, Relationship and Lifestyle Blogs. The Top 100 list includes blogs that cover Dating and Relationship Advice, Travel, Fitness, Lifestyle, and Fashion. Evidently, Joe Atkins, webmaster and editor of bestseniordatingsites.org couldn't just stop at 100 blogs to list. He's added another section-- and the current Top 100 list (as of this writing) now includes 108 top senior dating and relationship blogs.<br />
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Now, those of you who are regular readers of this blog and my book site, <a href="http://middleagedbabemagnet.com/">middleagedbabemagnet.com</a>, know that I cover all kinds of dating and relationship topics--including dating after divorce, dating over 50, and dating advice for people of all ages. This blog isn't just for people who are "seniors." But one of the things I discovered in my dating after divorce and dating over 50 life is that so much of good dating advice transcends a person's age.<br />
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Take Babe Magnet Rule #87: Be a gentleman.There are so few gentlemen left in the world these days, and being one is a great way to set yourself apart from all of the jerks that women have been dating. That's good advice no matter how old you are-- whether you're in your 20s or you are dating over 50.(By the way, that Babe Magnet Rule is from <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Confessions-Middle-Aged-Babe-Magnet-Adventure/dp/0985047917/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1362189081&sr=8-1&keywords=middle-aged+babe+magnet" target="_blank">Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</a>.)<br />
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So, I hope this blog gets mentioned on the best senior dating sites website. After all, I AM a member of AARP already--although I'm not yet old enough to get the senior discount at the movie theater.<br />
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<br />MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com15tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-22951431284065043882013-02-23T06:48:00.000-08:002013-02-23T06:51:42.023-08:00Dating After Divorce: Dating Dealbreakers<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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One of the best things about Twitter is hashtags. Just using a hashtag (#) followed by a short phrase makes it possible to follow a specific topic as it trends across the Twitterverse.<br />
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Last week, the hashtag #MajorTurnOffs was abuzz with dealbreakers about dating. These pithy little comments sum up the complaints against people who are bad dates—and who probably aren’t worthy of seeing again. Anyone who has been dating after divorce is going to recognize a lot of these. (Thanks to <a href="http://huffingtonpost.com/">huffingtonpost.com</a> for compiling this list.) And thanks to Twitter, too.<br />
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• a man who isn't gainfully employed <br />
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• When you can’t tell me how large the national debt is, but you know every detail about Kim and Yeezy’s life.<br />
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• married men who flirt with you behind their wives back/in front of their wives faces. <br />
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• when females act like they don’t trust men at all.<br />
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• mentioning an ex like they're still obsessed with them. <em>(Is this a dating after divorce red flag, or what?) </em><br />
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• past drama-- I need to know that your past is your past, your ex is your ex, and that I’m not a backup<br />
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• When someone says, “I liked that band way before they were famous.” <br />
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• Not being ok with divorce. It’s kind of my thing. <em>(Yeah, if you’re dating after divorce, that could be a real sore spot.) </em><br />
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• Someone that’s just always negative & never has anything good to say about anything or anyone.<br />
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• Guys who get drunk on the 1st date, esp if I’m not even drinking. <br />
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So what do you think? Is this a good list? Leave a comment and let us know what your dating dealbreaker is. And thanks for reading.<br />
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This is Chad Stone, author of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Confessions-Middle-Aged-Babe-Magnet-ebook/dp/B007KA6R32/ref=tmm_kin_title_0?ie=UTF8&qid=1361564683&sr=8-1" target="_blank">Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet</a>, signing off.<br />
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<br />MiddleAgedBabeMagnethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04329229246522641282noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8103874353869679433.post-70430986325219619752013-02-02T13:16:00.000-08:002013-02-02T13:16:55.172-08:00Dating Over 50 and Babe Magnet Rule #17You know that old saying, you can't teach an old dog new tricks? That may be true for old dogs, but not for single men. When I was single and dating over 50, I definitely learned a few new things about women.<br />
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One of the things I learned was Babe Magnet Rule #17, which appears in my book, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Confessions-Middle-Aged-Babe-Magnet-Adventure/dp/0985047917/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top" target="_blank">Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet: One Man's Brave Adventure into Dating Again in the 21st Century</a>. It goes like this:<br />
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<strong>A Babe Magnet knows when to hold ‘em, knows when to fold ‘em, knows when to walk away, and knows when to run like hell. </strong><br />
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Some dates are made in heaven. Everything clicks. The conversation flows. You lock eyes with your date, and you listen to every word. You’re both witty and fun and fun to be with. Even if it’s your first date, it seems like you’ve known each other for years.</div>
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<br />When you are dating over 50 and you're on a date like this, you are tempted to ask her if this date is work, but you bite your tongue. It sure feels like work to you. Right at the moment, you aren’t having any fun at all.<br />
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My advice for singles, no matter how old they are, is this: If a first date crashes and burns, let it go. Cut your losses and move on. If a second or third date reveals that what you thought was the Babe of your dreams actually harbors one of the character flaws on your “deal breakers” list, move on.</div>
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When I was newly single and dating over 50 after my divorce, I was lonely and looking for companionship. I was too patient with women who just weren’t right for me. I thought that any date was better than no date.</div>
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As I grew in wisdom and confidence, I realized that some dates were a complete waste of my time. After all, I was looking for the last love of my life. So what was I doing going out with a woman who I already knew wasn’t The One for me?</div>
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Like Kenny Rogers said in his classic song, The Gambler, “know when to hold ‘em and know when to fold ‘em.</div>
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And when a date turns into a disaster, run like hell. That's true when you are dating at 20, dating over 50, or dating at 100.</div>
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Visit <a href="http://www.middleagedbabemagnet.com/" target="_blank">middleagedbabemagnet.com</a> for more great tips about dating and relationships from Chad Stone.</div>
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