It was fun to share my dating experiences with Molly and Christine, who are both currently single. They wanted to know what women are doing wrong in the dating world, and that naturally began a discussion of online dating.
I told the ladies that most women don't realized that their online dating profiles aren't about sharing, they're about selling. That's right, online dating profiles are sales brochures. And the product you're selling is yourself. (This goes for men, too.)
Instead of sharing all about your darkest inner secrets, you online profile should present your very best attributes. Start with a nice photo of yourself. Get someone who knows how to take a good photo to take some head shots of you. (And no, Molly and Christine, I am not talking about a "boudior" photo like the ones you get at the mall photo studios.) Smile, for God's sake. Look happy and friendly.
Then, when you are describing yourself, don't go off on a rant about how you know what you want and know what you're willing to put up with in a man, "so don't ask me to compromise because I won't." Does that sound like the kind of woman that a man is going to approach? No way.
Write a profile that makes you sound fun. Write a profile that makes you sound like a man can woo you and make you happy. One of the things that women simply don't understand about men is that men love to please their women. So if you sound like a woman who is cranky and impossible to please, then you might as well be spreading Man Repellent around. The men will stay away in droves.
As I told Molly and Christine on their show, I firmly believe that all of us-- no matter how old we are or what our relationship experience is-- can find love. But in order for that to happen, we've got to BELIEVE it can happen, and then we have to do everything possible to MAKE it happen.
For lots more on this topic and advice about dating, go to amazon.com and by my book. Then write to me and tell me what you think of it. I'd love to know if my advice and my experience is helpful for you.
That's it for now. The Middle-Aged Babe Magnet has left the building.
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Here is my review:Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet by Chad Stone © 2012
ReplyDeleteConfessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet is the almost completely true story of one man’s brave adventure into dating again in the 21st Century. The author himself gets a divorce and has to start dating in the 21st century, which is not an easy task. The story unfolds as a humorous memoir that’s also an insightful dating and relationship guide for men of all ages. For women, the book offers a unique, unvarnished look into the mind of a real man; revealing how a single man thinks and why he behaves as he does.
Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet is a journey of modern self-discovery that is laugh-out-loud funny in some places and poignantly tender in others. Fascinating, funny and heartfelt, Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet is proof that love is possible at any age— as long as you’re willing to embrace it.
I have read your book and it is simply the most funny and well researched book. I am also a divorced (woman) of the 21st century. Now that you wrote your book, I might have to write the middle aged woman ways to dating in the 21st century. Pondering that! The best part of your book delivery to me is that you are the only one to include extras; you have a folder with your business card, bio, and much more! This is the best book to learn from if any man is divorced and middle aged!
© 2012 Jackie Paulson
Thanks so much, Jackie!
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