Friday, December 16, 2011
When Should a Man Call?
I ran into a friend of mine the other day. The last time I saw him was at a wedding, and he had struck up a conversation with a nice single woman. Things had gone so well that he had left with her phone number.
That was three months ago. He still hasn’t called her. “Do you think it’s too late to give her a call?” he asked me.
I wanted to slap him upside the head.
Yes, you clueless man, three months is too late to call. By now, she probably has forgotten who you are. And if she still remembers you, it’s only because she’s still pissed that you didn’t call.
There’s a bit a folk wisdom among single men called the Three Day Rule. According to the Three Day Rule, a man should wait three days before calling a woman after he has gotten her phone number. Men think that waiting for three days shows women that they are not desperate or needy. They think waiting three days communicates manlymanness. (That’s a word that I just made up, by the way. Sometimes manly men make up their own words.)
I used to agree with the Three Day Rule. It made me feel manly. But not anymore.
Why did I change my mind? I talked to some women, and they all told me the Three Day Rule was really stupid. In fact, it was so stupid that it must have been invented by a man.
These women told me, “If I am interested in a man, I want to hear from him. I don’t want to wait three days. If he waits for three days, then that tells me he’s not as interested in me as I am in him.”
After that, I never again waited three days to call a woman. Usually, I called the next day. And I can tell you, I never got a single complaint from a woman telling me that I called her too soon.
What do you think about the Three Day Rule? I’d like to hear your opinions—so please comment! Thanks for reading.
Signing off for now,
(sometimes known as the Middle-Aged Babe Magnet)
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