Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Two Secrets About Men

Talk to any woman, and she will tell you that men don’t understand women. But what women don’t know is that they don’t have a clue about men, either.

According to dating expert Kara Oh, most women don’t have a clue about two vitally important secrets about how to date and win the heart of a man.

Secret #1: A Woman Must Use Her Feminine Grace. That means a woman must keep her emotional reactions to herself, or share then with a trusted girlfriend. She SHOULD NOT reveal all of her emotions to the man she wants to romance (lest she scare him away).

Here are some more tips on using Feminine Grace:

* Be gracious

* Communicate with your heart

* Expect him to treat you with respect and consideration

* When you behave in this way, you will be on your way to making him
feel good to be around you.

Secret #2: Make Him Feel Like a Man. Too few women how important this secret really is. Sure, they may do this in the beginning of a relationship because they are excited about a new man. But, unfortunately, once they become comfortable in their relationship, they tend to start making him feel like LESS of a man.

How big a mistake is this? It’s a deal breaker for most men. Admittedly, most men do not realize right away what is going on when the woman starts to pick away at his manhood by criticizing him and trying to mold him into something new. But soon he realizes that the woman he is with is starting to make him feel bad—not wonderful. A man wants to please the woman of his dreams. But she can’t be pleased. What man wants to be around a woman who makes him feel like he's a failure?

Here are Kara Oh’s suggestions for making a man feel like a man:

* Let him know good a man you think he is

* Let him know how considerate he is

* Let him know how smart you think he is

* Let him know strong and capable he is

Why? Because he wants to be your hero and this will tell him he is. By the way, if he isn't someone you can appreciate, then he's not the man for you.

When a man feels good whenever he's around you, then he will be drawn to you like bees to their favorite flower. Does this mean she waits on him like a servant? No. It's more a matter of appreciating him as a man.

So, what do you think of this advice? Is it old-fashioned and crazy? Or is it classic brilliance that is just as true today as it was hundreds of years ago?

I’d love to hear your thoughts.

-Chad Stone (affectionately known as the Middle-Aged Babe Magnet)


  1. I am very happy to read this article thanks for giving us this useful information. Read a useful article.

  2. I agree with Kara! Some call it, "ego stroking"... I just call it being "positive"..no one, man or woman, wants to be nagged or reminded of shortcomings, or what they "didn't do". So often women get into the mindset that if they complain a little, the Man will step up and try harder..or if she pouts/cries, he will swoop in and make her feel better...not so much!

    There is a saying, "If you want to be Loved, BE Lovable" xo

  3. Yes, gigi. That's exactly how it works from a man's perspective. Like my gramma always said, you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. (Not that men are flies-- but you know what I mean.)

  4. ha ha! I use that old quote all the time with my 5 sons ;)
    men are so much more simple than we give them credit for (meant in a kind way, of course!)..we tend to project our complexities onto them. *shakes head :)