Great Dating Advice Tips from the Internet

 

There’s no shortage of dating advice on the internet. (Including the dating advice website you’re reading right now, written by yours truly, Chad Stone the Middle-Aged Babe Magnet!). If you want to see just how much dating advice is out there in web-land, create a Google Alert for “dating advice” and you will get a recap every single day.

 

So here’s a quick round-up of some recent dating advice and relationship tips that I gleaned from the internet. Enjoy!

 

Dating Advice #1: Do not talk about your ex-wife/ex-husband/ex-girlfriend/ex-boyfriend on a date.

Those of you who have read my previous posts (and my dating advice book, The Babe Magnet Rules of Dating Over 50, http://amzn.to/13hyWAj ) know that one of my pet peeves is bad-mouthing your ex-spouse or your ex-girlfriend/boyfriend. That’s just a really dumb thing to do when you’re on a date with someone new. It makes you look like a jerk. So I loved this story from HuffPost called “The Quickest Way to Crash a Relationship.”

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/susan-campos/download-dating-the-quick_b_4834600.html

 

Another popular topic of dating advice posts online is “inappropriate online dating pictures.”  You know the kind—a guy in workout clothes showing off his muscles, or a picture of him standing next to his sports car. Or how about a woman and her two little dogs dress up for Halloween. Have you ever seen any of these?

http://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/how-analyze-online-dating-profile-pictures-whos-keeper

Five Reasons You Shouldn’t Let Your Friends Set You Up caught my eye. Five reasons? Aren’t there more like 105 reasons in the annals of dating advice? Aren’t there at least a couple of reasons for every person you went out with that didn’t work out, even though your friend said you were “perfect” for each other? Sure. But there’s always the ONE REASON you might want to let your friends set you up. IT MIGHT WORK OUT. There’s no one right way to meet the love of your life. Here’s the story:

http://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/5-reasons-you-shouldnt-let-your-friends-set-you

There's a lot of dating advice on the Internet. Some of it can be confusing.

 

And then there’s all the dating advice you could have learned over the years from the “How I Met Your Mother” TV show. There’s enough material here for several books. A recent web story covered some of the highlights, which are especially timely because the series is going to end soon. One of my favorite tips from the show is “Mystery is much more exciting than history.” That refers to how easy it is in the Facebook and Google world to find out WAY TOO MUCH about someone you’re about to go out with. Sometimes it’s more fun to find out things on your own. Check out this link if you like the TV show at all:

http://www.theonlinerocket.com/campus-life/2014/02/25/how-i-met-your-mother-creates-rules-for-dating/

Best of all-- since these tips and stories were posted on the Internet, you know they are all true!

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Have a great day!

Dating after divorce does not have to be difficult

Dating after divorce is an adventure that can be fruitful and funny. That’s my story, and I’m sticking to it.

Dating after divorce can actually be a very rewarding experience.

 

Too many people think that dating after divorce is difficult. When they talk about their dating after divorce experiences, they start getting depressed. “Dating after divorce is a real chore,” they say.

But why does it have to be that way? I think that anyone who thinks that dating after divorce sucks needs an attitude adjustment. Simple as that.

My mission while dating after divorce

When I was dating after divorce, I was on a mission. My mission was to have fun and find the love of my life. That was how I began my dating over 50 life, which I wrote about in a book called Confessions of a Middle Aged Babe Magnet: One Man's Brave Adventure into Dating Again in the 21st Century by yours truly, Chad Stone. Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet is a humorous look at dating after divorce and dating after 50. It contains 92 Babe Magnet Rules that help guide a dating over 50 man (or a dating over 50 woman) through the process of finding love.

After my marriage ended, I (Chad Stone) began dating after divorce in search of the last great love of my life. I was not afraid to jump into dating, because I was very clear about my intentions. I had my “eye on the prize.” I quickly realized that, in order to attract the Babe of my dreams while, I needed to work on myself a little bit. I had to be open to new ideas. While dating over 50, I had to be flexible enough to improve myself so I’d be a more desirable “catch.” I had to learn how to become a Babe Magnet so I could attract the woman of my dreams.

 

A funny story of dating after divorce

As my dating after divorce story unfolded, I wrote my thoughts and adventures down in a journal. Ultimately, my story because a humorous memoir that’s also an insightful dating and relationship guide for men of all ages. It contains lots of great dating after divorce advice--and lots of laughs for anyone who has ever been single.

My dating after divorce story became a humorous memoir/dating advice book called Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet.

 

During my dating after divorce adventure, I discovered that my soul mate was not going to knock unannounced at my front door. (Babe Magnet Rule #9: When in doubt, a Babe Magnet gets off the couch and goes out.) I learned how to woo a woman by paying attention to what women appreciate. (Babe Magnet Rule #36: Any time a man cooks a meal for a woman, he gets relationship points.) And during my dating after divorce journey, I learned how to stand apart from other single men. (Babe Magnet Rule #87: Be a gentleman. There are so few gentlemen left in the world these days, and being one is a great way to set yourself apart from all of the jerks that women have been dating.)

Dating after divorce success

I shared all of my new-found knowledge and awareness learned while I was dating after divorce. It’s all contained in Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet -- a journey of modern self-discovery that is laugh-out-loud funny in some places and poignantly tender in others. For women, the book offers a unique, dating after divorce look into the mind of a real man—revealing how a single man thinks and why he behaves as he does. Dating after divorce has never been so much fun! Middle-AgedBabeMagnet

I even wrote a follow-up book called The Babe Magnet Rules of Dating Over 50: 101 Tips for Meeting, Winning, & Keeping a New Love.

Fascinating, funny and heartfelt, Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet is a triumph of the human spirit and proof that love is possible at any age while dating after divorce—as long as you’re willing to embrace it. My tongue-in-cheek “Babe Magnet” persona turned out to be the vehicle I used to find the last great love of my life. It’s a powerful, entertaining story with a happy ending that will make you smile and fill you with hope. Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet: One Man's Brave Adventure into Dating Again in the 21st Century 

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The real truth about Valentine’s Day myths and misunderstandings

 

Valentine’s Day is the biggest day of the year for lovers. It doesn’t really matter if Valentine’s Day is a made-up holiday designed to sell greeting cards and boxes of chocolates. Valentine’s Day has become a day for lovers to express their feelings and affections for each other, and it’s a day that you better participate in—or else endure the wrath of your sweetheart.

You might think you know everything there is to know about celebrating cupid’s day of love. After all, you’ve had a few relationships in your life. (Maybe more than a few relationships!) Nevertheless, in the spirit of Valentine’s Day and offering Valentine’s Day advice, let’s talk about the biggest myths and misunderstandings about Valentine’s Day.

 

Myth # 1: It's perfectly OK to skip Valentine's Day

Wrong, wrong and double wrong. If you’re a man and you decide to skip Valentine’s Day, you are setting yourself up for disaster. Your honey-pie might even realize that it's a hyped-up holiday, but that won’t get you off the hook completely. You know why? Because everyone else is celebrating it, and if she sees her friends getting flowers and going out to dinner, she’s going to wonder why you are being such a jerk.

 

So here’s what you can do instead. Celebrate Valentine’s in your own special, low-key sort of way. You don’t have to buy lavish gifts to keep the spirit of the day alive. How about planning an activity that you and your lover enjoy? Take her hiking or ice skating or zip-lining (if you’re really adventurous). It almost doesn’t matter what activity you decide to do together as long as your honey can tell that you gave it some thought and you picked something that you thought she would enjoy.  

  

Myth # 2: February 14th is the only day to celebrate love
Just because everyone else is celebrating Valentine’s Day on February 14th, does that mean you have to? Not really. Sure, it’s the conventional thing to do. The very popularity of Feb. 14 makes it a bit difficult to buck the tide. But you can throw convention out the window and have a little fun—if you do it right.

How about picking another day in the week and declare it as your very own Valentine’s Day? Every place will be less crowded, and it might feel more special if you and your lover have your very own day. She will still be the one being romanced, right? She will appreciate the fact that you created a day just for her. But this is very important: Make sure you talk about this BEFORE Valentine’s Day. She has to be onboard with this idea or it won’t work.

 

Myth # 3: You're saving money for a fun vacation, so it's OK to skip Valentine's Day altogether

I pity the man who falls for this myth. Sure, she agreed to save money for your big vacation. So she clearly won’t expect a lavish Valentine’s Day celebration. But none at all? That will disappoint her—especially when all of her girlfriends have stories to tell about the gifts they received and the places they went.

 

So, honor the spirit of your agreement to save money. While you should not plan an expensive date, you do want to surprise her with an inexpensive (but thoughtful) gift or activity. Plan to meet her for lunch and pack her favorite food in a picnic basket. She'll be impressed that you stuck to a budget while still making her feel special.

 

Myth # 4: You've only been dating for a few months, so you won't celebrate

If you’ve been dating a long time, or if you’re happily married, Valentine’s Day is a no-brainer. OF COURSE you’re going to celebrate the day in some way. But what about if you just started dating? Do you opt for something romantic if you’re not really sure how your gesture will be received?

 

In a new relationship, it’s important to honor the day without being overly romantic about it. Ignoring Valentine’s Day would be a mistake, so you want to acknowledge it and gently use Valentine’s Day as a way to move the relationship forward. How? Try scheduling a dancing class or a cooking class. Or, take her to see a comedy show — anything to get the two of you laughing and experiencing something fun together.

 

Myth #5: He shouldn’t expect a gift in return

Ladies, this is the myth that you have to pay attention to. Although Valentine’s Day is usually marketed as a woman’s holiday, when the man makes a big deal about treating his woman to gifts and expressions of love, there’s no rule stating that the woman can’t surprise her man with something thoughtful in return.

 

Plan to give him a small gift of love. It can be a gift that you buy, or it can be something fun and special. Make him his favorite dessert. Or how about a sexy lingerie show just for him, followed by … well, you know. Be creative and he will feel loved and adored.

 

And one more thing

Who says Valentine’s Day celebrations have to be restricted to one day a year? Make every day a Valentine’s Day by saying “I love you” and showing your honey that you appreciate them!

 

For more on this topic--and just about everything else concerning love, dating and relationships, read The Babe Magnet Rules of Dating Over 50: 101 Tips for Meeting, Winning & Keeping a New Love by Chad Stone. For daily tips about love and relationships, "Like" Chad's Facebook page.

 

 

Online Dating Goes Mobile: There’s an App for That

 

Online dating and looking for love online has definitely gone mainstream. According to a Pew Internet study, 11% of American adults have used online dating sites or mobile dating apps while looking for love. Among those adults who are “single and looking,” the figure jumps to 38% who have gone online or used mobile apps to help them find a romantic partner. (Interestingly, another 10% who are “single and not looking” have also used online dating sites and apps. They must be window shopping.)

 

The study about online dating and mobile dating apps is fascinating in its scope and detail. You can read more about it here:

http://pewinternet.org/Reports/2013/Online-Dating/Main-Report/Part-2.aspx

 

I’ve covered online dating in previous posts. This time we’re going to look at mobile phone dating apps that turn smart phones into a whole new way to meet up. (Thanks to www.CassandraDaily.com for bringing these to my attention.)

 

Twine

Let’s face it, most dating sites and apps encourage users to make judgments about people based almost exclusively on a profile photo. (A photo is the first thing you see until you click to see a person’s profile.)  But an app called Twine blurs a person’s profile at first, so it forces users to evaluate possible Cupid connections based only on personality info. Twine syncs up with the Facebook profiles of users to create a more secure environment. The app provides up to three potential matches every day. Users of Twine can see each other’s age, location, a compatibility meter, and their mutual interests (and that blurry profile photo), which the app uses to suggest conversation topics. You can chat anonymously for a while. Then, if both of you agree to see each other’s clear photos and first names, bingo—all is revealed.

 

Twine blurs a person's profile photo at first to encourage you to focus on their personality and interests.

 

Anomo

Like Twine, Anomo is a popular dating app that hides the users’ profile pictures until they choose to share them. So instead of photos, in the beginning people only see a cartoon avatar. They also see a username, gender, age group (verified by Facebook), location, and interests. To get things going, the app suggests games to break the ice and help find potential matches. To make it more fun, Anomo lets you chat one-on-one (using 540 characters or less), invite people to play the games with them, and check into locations. As time progresses, users can unlock personal content including their names, pictures, and occupations. Anomo was originally launched as a dating app, but it has also gained additional traction as a way for people to make friends and connect professionally.

 

Tinder

Tinder might just be the perfect dating app for single people who suffer from a fear of rejection. It was launched to connect people anonymously based on their locations and their personal preferences. For whatever reason—who really knows why some apps and some websites catch fire, Tinder has exploded in popularity. Already more than 35 million people have created profiles and more than 1 million matches have been made. One reason it has caught on so quickly is because the app links to users’ Facebook accounts. This gives Tinder the power to suggest possible matches based on Facebook friends and interests. To address privacy concerns, members remain anonymous until they both indicate a mutual “Like.”

The Tinder mobile app already has 35 million registered users. Love is calling!

 

 

What does it all mean?

So I guess the moral of this story is this: as long as there are single people, there will be no shortage of ways to connect with them, meet them, and fall in love. Take it from yours truly, Chad Stone, the Middle-Aged Babe Magnet. I found my wife online, so I can tell you that technology can be a wonderful thing when you’re looking for your soul mate.

 

Please connect with me at www.facebook.com/ConfessionsofaMiddleAgedBabeMagnet for my daily thoughts and discoveries about life, dating and relationships.

 

New Year’s Resolutions: A New Year Brings New Opportunities for Happiness

The beginning of a New Year is traditionally the time when we make New Year’s resolutions. Of course, you can make resolutions, set goals, and vow to improve yourself at any time of the year. But when the calendar page turns to a new year, that’s when most of us take time to reflect on the year just finished and consider what we can do to make the coming New Year even better.

With that in mind, I thought I would share my New Year’s resolutions for 2014—and beyond. Perhaps they will give you an idea of something you’d like to do to make your new year brighter.

New Year’s Resolution #1: Be happy, and seek happiness in everything I do

Every day is full of opportunities to be happy, but sometimes we forget how much we have to be happy about. This year I will seek and recognize happiness in even little things. This year I promise to wake up with a happy thought. I will take a moment to be happy to be waking up in a warm, comfortable bed. I will ponder at least one happy moment to look forward to that day. I will appreciate my first meal of the day, and the clothes I am wearing. I will appreciate the sun on clear days and the clouds on rainy days. I will especially be joyful and thankful for my loving family and friends. I have a lot to be thankful for, and the natural result of gratitude is happiness.

 

New Year’s Resolution #2: Enjoy the small moments

It’s easy to enjoy the big moments of life—the birth of a child or grandchild, the triumph of a new job or promotion, the thrill of a major vacation. But what about the small everyday moments? There can be great joy in a sunset, in the first morning cup of coffee, in receiving a friendly email or Facebook message that you didn’t expect. This year I promise to enjoy the small moments that happen throughout the day—every day.

 

New Year’s Resolution #3: Be more friendly, and be a better friend

This year I will be the first to introduce myself to a stranger at a party or a business event. I will be the one with the smile on my face and the outstretched hand, welcoming a newcomer who is standing alone by himself. I will look for new opportunities to make new friends, and I will be more friendly to those people who I already consider my friends.

 

New Year’s Resolution #4: Cut myself a little slack.

Most of us are too hard on ourselves. I am certainly more critical of myself than I am of other people, and I expect more of myself than I do of anyone else. So instead of trying to walk on water, I promise to be content with walking through the puddles. I don’t have to be perfect at everything I do. I don’t have to beat myself up about every little mistake I make. I am going to cut myself a little slack and not sweat the small stuff. I’ll bet this goes a long way toward making every day happier. (See New Year’s resolution #1)

 

New Year’s Resolution #5: Look for the positive

This year I am going to do a better job of looking for silver linings. When that work project that I bid on doesn’t come through, I will tell myself that a better offer is on its way. When a friend disappoints me by being unavailable for lunch, I will take that as an opportunity to call someone else who I haven’t talked to in a while. When my kids don’t return my calls, I will be thankful that their lives are blessedly busy—and I will call them again with a smile on my face.  Our attitude about the things that happen every day has a major impact on our life experience, so I am going to make sure that my attitude is as positive as possible.

 

One of the things I learned while writing Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet was that we are all responsible for our own happiness.

New Year’s Resolution #6: Practice random acts of kindness

I am going to do some nice things for people for no particular reason. I have never in my life paid for the guy’s order behind me in the Starbucks drive-through. Well, this year I am going to randomly do some nice things for people I don’t know—as well as for people that I do know. I am going to give a meal to a homeless person. I am going to take magazines to a nursing home or hospital waiting room. I will support inspirational websites like www.kheavensent.com. And I won’t expect anything in return. The warm feeling in my heart and the hope that I might inspire someone else to practice a random act of kindness will be all the reward I need.

 

How about you? What are you going to do to ensure that this next year is better than the one before?

 

Chad Stone is the author of Confessions of a Middle-Aged Babe Magnet. Like his Facebook page!

 

 

Dating Tips for the Holiday Season

I was just interviewed on a radio show to talk about dating tips for the holiday season.  It’s a popular topic this time of year because the holiday season is typically festive and filled with lots of social events. But the holidays can be a bit challenging for singles. If you’re single during the holidays it’s important to stay positive and say yes to holiday parties. Don’t start feeling sorry for yourself just because you aren’t spending the holidays with the love of your life.

 



Look on the bright side. If you're single during the holiday season you won't have to dress like this.

Holiday Dating Tips for Singles

Sure, there are lots of family-oriented events during the holiday season. And, yes, Aunt Mabel might corner you at a family gathering and ask you why you still aren’t married. But look at the positive side: the holidays are filled with social events that offer opportunities to meet someone new. Be open to meeting someone special and you’ll find yourself having fun. Follow these tips:

 

Holiday Dating Tip #1: Go Old School

You know what they say about the holiday season, right? It’s the most wonderful time of the year! This season is also the most old-fashioned time of the year, and that goes for everyone whether you’re single, dating, or married. The most popular Christmas song is White Christmas, by Bing Crosby—a  song that was recorded in 1942. There is no other time of year that you’ll hear a 70-year-old song on the radio. So keep that in mind, and lean toward behaving like an old school man or old school woman during your dating and social activities during the holidays.

 

Holiday Season Tip for Singles #2: Dress to Impress

The holiday season is a fancier, more formal and more festive time of year. So dress nice. Leave your crappy clothes at home and wear your grown-up clothes. Throw that old sweatshirt and frayed sweater in the laundry and leave them there until after New Year’s. Be classy, not trashy if you want to stand out and attract new love during the holidays.

 

This outfit sounded like a good idea after 12 glasses of eggnog. Can you spell E-P-I-C  F-A-I-L?

Holiday Dating Tip #3: Use Your Best Manners

Again, think Old School. Maybe saying “Yes Ma’am” and “Yes, Sir” is going a bit too far—but maybe not. If you’re a single person meeting your boyfriend’s or girlfriend’s parents for the first time, it’s really hard to be TOO polite. And the same thing goes for meeting someone on a first date. During the holidays, we just expect people to be nicer, friendlier, and have better manners.

So guys, DO NOT wear mistletoe on you belt buckle thinking you’re going to get some action. That’s an epic fail during the holidays.

 

Holiday Dating Tip #4:  Don’t be a Schmuck—Spend Ten Bucks

The holidays are full of parties—office parties, cocktail parties, dinner parties. Whether you’re a man or a woman, show up bearing a gift. Small and thoughtful is best. Poinsettias. A bottle of affordable wine. Homemade cookies or sweetbread. A small holiday décor item. Be a wise man (or woman) and play the role of Santa’s little helper. Spending 5 or 10 bucks keeps you from looking like a schmuck. And generosity is VERY appealing to singles of both genders.

 

Holiday Season Tip for Singles #5: Relax and be Your Best Self

The holiday season is a great time to relax, enjoy yourself and stop trying so hard to impress the opposite sex. If you’re a man, leave your tired old pickup lines at home. If you’re a woman, leave your slutty clothes in your closet. This is the time to be comfortable within you own skin in a comfortable, natural way. There is nothing more appealing than that. (And this holiday dating tip works all year long.)

 

Relax and enjoy the holiday season whether you're single or part of a couple.

 

Bonus Holiday Season Tip for Single Women

Ladies, DO NOT dress up your dog in a cute little Santa outfit, thinking that’s a great man magnet. You might think, “That’s so cute!” But men think, “Look at the crazy lady who dressed up her dog like Santa Paws.”

Double Bonus: The Holiday Season is a good time to remember:

Babe Magnet Rule #14

Babe Magnets are confident and sure of themselves. Even if they have to fake it.

Babe Rule #1

Be the Babe. Make him earn your affections. You’re worth the effort.

(NOTE: For more dating and relationship tips, read The Babe Magnet Rules of Dating Over 50: 101 Tips for Meeting, Winning & Keeping a New Love by Chad Stone.)

 

Have a terrific holiday season!

 

 

Two secrets women need to know about men

 

Talk to any woman, and she will tell you that men don’t understand women. That’s because men can be clueless—and that’s no big secret. (I am a man, and I can say this in all honesty.) But I’ll let you in on a little secret women need to know about men. Many women don’t know that they don’t have a clue about men, either.

 

According to dating expert Kara Oh, most women don’t have a clue about two vitally important secrets about how to date and win the heart of a man. I call these the two secrets that women need to know about men in order to attract the right man—and keep him interested.

Is LOVE in the cards for you? It can be--but only if you know the rules of the game.

 

Secret #1: A Woman Must Use Her Feminine Ways

What does it mean for a woman to use her feminine ways? It means simply this: most men can’t handle a woman’s emotional power. Women must realize that their emotions are too powerful a force for most men to understand. This emotional power shorts out a man’s brain circuits and sends him running for cover.

 

As a result, a woman needs to keep her emotional reactions to herself, or share then with a trusted girlfriend. She SHOULD NOT reveal all of her emotions to the man she wants to romance. Truly, the power of a woman’s emotions is more than a man can handle. His mind is hardwired for logic and problem solving. Men don’t understand emotions and process life through their emotions the way women do.   

 

The answer for women? Learn to regulate your feminine power with feminine grace. Outsmart him by giving him just what his ego wants. At the same time, use your feminine grace to set the ground rules so he will know how you want to be treated. (Men appreciate knowing what “the rules” are—and they respond by trying to please you.)

Here are some more tips on how to convert your feminine power to feminine grace:

 

• Be gracious. Grace leads to graciousness. Men don’t get a lot of graciousness from the men in their lives, so they crave it from women.

• Speak from the heart, but don’t overload his brain with too much emotion. He wants to feel your emotion—he really does. He just doesn’t want to be overwhelmed by it.

• Expect him to treat you with consideration and respect. That’s what you deserve, and you should not settle for anything less.

 

When you turn on your feminine charms, you will find that there is real power in controlling your feminine energy. Use this secret to behave from your source of feminine power and he will feel good to be around you. And that’s crucial in getting him to come back for more.

 

Secret #2: Make Him Feel Like a Man

Why is this secret that women need to know so secret? Probably because too few women know how important this secret really is. Sure, women may make a man feel manly in the beginning of a relationship because they are excited about a new man. But, unfortunately, once they become comfortable in their relationship, they tend to start making him feel like LESS like a man.

 

How big a mistake is this? It’s a deal breaker for most men. Instead of continuing to use their feminine power in the form of feminine grace, too many women start to chip away at a man’s masculine ego by criticizing him and trying to turn him into something different. (Something better, right ladies?) A man wants to please his woman, so he will go along with some of the changes. But after a while most men will realize that the woman he is with is starting to make him feel bad about himself—not wonderful. Trust me, a man wants to please the woman of his dreams. But what if she can’t be pleased? Then he feels like a failure. What man wants to be around a woman who makes him feel like he is a failure?

 

Here are Kara Oh’s suggestions for making a man feel like a man:

 

• Let him know how good a man you think he is. Tell him with your eyes, your smile, and your kind words. Tell him he makes you feel like a lady.

• Let him know how considerate he is—and let him know how much that pleases you.

• Let him know how smart you think he is. Stroke his ego a little. It might sound a little manipulative, and maybe it is. But as a man, yours truly Chad Stone can speak on behalf of men. For more on this topic, check out my book Babe MagnetRules of Dating Over 50.

Let him know strong and capable he is. (It’s beginning to sound like men are just big, insecure babies on the inside. Well ladies, they are.) 

 

Basically, it comes down to this: a man wants to be his woman’s hero. We all want to be the charming prince who comes to a beautiful damsel’s rescue. Men want to live the fairy tale, too. And by the way, ladies, if he is not the kind of man you can honestly appreciate, then he IS NOT the man for you.

 

Would you rather be happy? Or would you rather be right--and not find the man of your dreams?

Does this advice sound hopeless old-fashioned? Does it sound crazy to behave like this in the 21^st century? Not if you want the man of your dreams. Dating IS old-fashioned. Relationships ARE based largely upon centuries of old-fashioned behaviors. If you want to get a great man and live happily ever after, you’ve got to use your feminine power in a gracious and graceful way.

 

So, what do you think of this advice? Is it old-fashioned and crazy? Or is it classic brilliance that is just as true today as it was hundreds of years ago?

 

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Please comment and let me know if you think I’m crazy—or not.

 

Sincerely,

 

Chad Stone (affectionately known as the Middle-Aged Babe Magnet)